Posts Categorized: Counseling

3 Myths about Talk Therapy

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Talk therapy has been around for awhile, but some people still have some misperceptions about it – and that’s OK. I am here to help!

Talk therapy basically refers to any sort of therapy where you talk with a counselor to get to the bottom of your emotions and problems. Talking about your issues can make you feel better emotionally and physically. Here are 3 talk therapy myths – and why I am busting them!

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Do You Have Anxiety? How to Keep Your Relationship Strong


Don't Let Anxiety Take Over

If you suffer from anxiety it can be hard to maintain a strong bond with your partner. When you are freaking out and he or she tries to get close, your fear might tell you to push your partner away. In reality, it’s important to learn to turn to your partner and gang up together against your anxiety, but this might not come naturally.

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3 Reasons to Get Premarital Counseling

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Premarital counseling is not just for couples in severe distress.

Premarital counseling can help you build a strong base for your future as a married couple. It will help provide you the tools necessary to learn how to communicate better with each other. Sometimes what seems like a small issue has the potential to grow into a substantial wedge and you don't realize it just yet. Your therapist may even see some red flags and point them out to you so you can work through these before they become damaging to the relationship.

Here are three main reasons that seeing a professional counselor before the wedding day is a good idea.

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3 Signs You Need Couples Counseling

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Counseling isn't just for people who are in imminent danger of divorce. You can and should also use it as a preventative measure so you don't get that far. With these helpful hints for signs you need couples counseling, you can better look for red flags that you should consider calling a marriage and family therapist, or other relationship professional.

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Substance Abuse and Relationships

Substance Abuse and Relationships

How Addiction Can Impact Your Bond

Any relationship has its bumps in the road, but addiction is a real road block that can cause your relationship to lose its secure attachment and pose real danger -- both emotional and physical. If you are the loved one of an addict, you may feel helpless, and torn between staying in the relationship or walking away. Many people who love addicts fear being an enabler, but also don't want to leave their partner in the cold. Substance abuse is a hard road, but with the right resources, when the addict is ready to get help you can get to the other side.

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How to Waste Your Money on Couples Counseling

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Why coming to counseling with one of the 3 A's will sabotage your effort

Yes, couples counseling can be a real life line for your marriage. But only if you are willing to do the work and come to counseling ready to be emotional, honest, and take real action. If you have any of the three A's: abuse, addition, or an affair -- your results won't be the best they could be. In fact, you might make very little progress at all. When you go to couples counseling with one or more of the three A's, you are wasting your money and time. Here's what I mean:

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What You May Not Know About Counseling

What You May Not Know About Counseling

Hint: It's not as scary as you think!

One of the main reasons people tell me they avoid counseling is they just don't know what to expect. And let's face it -- what we don't know can create a great deal of fear. To make matters worth, you may have heard a myth or horror story about counseling that makes you even less likely to go. Fortunately, going to counseling isn't nearly as scary as you are making it out in your mind.

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How to Get Your Husband to Start Counseling

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Here's a Hint: You can't nag someone into wanting change

Marriage counseling only works if both parties are really commited to change, but sometimes one partner might be more accepting of the idea of therapy than the other. If you find yourself in a position where you really want to gets some outside help but your husband is resistant, being really aggressive about seeking a counselor might backfire. He may shut down altogether, which is no good because you need to enter counseling as a team.

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Signs of Effective Counseling

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How to identify when you are in counseling that works

If you're going into counseling for the very first time, it can be difficult to know how to gauge the process. How do you know if therapy is going to work for you? And how will you be able to tell if you should switch to a different counselor? Not all therapists are the same -- they use different methods and have different personalities. So, not all counselors will be effective for YOU.

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Top 10 Reasons You Should Start Counseling

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Don't wait until it is too late. Get the help you need.

Just like there isn't one single recipe for how therapy happens, there isn't a single reason why people should go to counseling. It's not just for "crazy" people, or the place to turn as a last resort. There are many reasons why you should seek help from counseling, from traumatic life events to ongoing depression. Here are some of the top reasons people should go to counseling:

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Top 10 Reasons People Avoid Counseling

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Guess What! It isn't as bad as what you think!

Going to counseling can be a scary concept, so if you're avoiding it -- you're not alone. You might wonder if counseling will work, what it means about your relationship, and if the financial investment is really worth it. People put off finding counseling for plenty of reasons, but the truth is that you don't have to be ashamed about wanting help, and putting it off can likely make your situation worse. Here are some of the main reasons people avoid counseling.

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Emotional Health: 5 Tips for Staying Sane During the Holidays

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Are the holidays driving you nuts? Learn how to keep it together and enjoy time with your loved ones.

The holidays can be a stressful season. As you work to make time to see everyone, afford gifts in tough financial times, and get along with relatives who may not be super supportive or positive, anxiety will begin to soar. If you let the stress get to you it’s easy to find yourself in a depression or at a breaking point! Here are five tips for staying sane during the holidays.

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Couples Counseling: What to Expect

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It’s normal to feel a bit anxious before you go to counseling, in part because you’re unsure about what is about to happen! In reality, coming to therapy at my office doesn’t need to be a scary prospect. From your first session to all subsequent visits, I am only here to help you become a stronger couple and improve the state of your relationship – I won’t judge or take a side.

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