We are in unprecedented times. We are unified in that, and living in stress can bring out the worst in us. Stress can lead to dysregulation, turning to unhealthy or unhelpful coping mechanisms, and bad habits. All of these can create conflict in relationships. This new “normal” has led to people relearning how to navigate life, themselves, and their relationships. For many couples, gone are the days where you part ways in the morning, send a few texts throughout the day, go to the gym while your partner goes to a book club, and meet back up for dinner at your favourite restaurant and fill each other in about your day. Childcare adds an additional struggle as many are unable to safely have support from family during the pandemic. Overall, the stress of life can unfortunately seep its way into our relationships.Read More
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For women and femme-identifying folx
Finding new connection and community during a pandemic is hard. This support group for women and femme-identifying folx provides a safe space for connection, support, empowerment, and a breathe of fresh air.Read More
Don't rely on temporary fixes
Conflict and stress are typical parts of any relationship. Just because they arise doesn't mean it's the end of your relationship. How you cope with this conflict and stress, however, is key.Read More
Counseling isn't "one size fits all," and every therapist may not be a good fit for you.
Searching for the best marriage counselor in San Diego is a very important part of your therapy process – before you can begin to make progress you need to find the right therapist. I believe you should find a therapist that will best fit your needs and your particular situation.Read More
We love getting the most bang for our buck, so we want you to have to have the same in your counseling. Going to counseling in San Diego takes courage. It can be difficult to address the problems you are struggling with and open up to a therapist. It costs you time, energy, and money. It is important to maximize what you get out of the therapy, so you get maximum reward. This means not only the time you are with the therapist, but the time in between sessions.Read More
There is research that ranks divorce as one of the most stressful life events, second only to loosing a long term spouse or life partner to death. (Dohrenwend et al., 1978; Holmes and Rahe, 1967; Gahler, 2006).
The end of a relationship can feel like the end of life as you knew it. It is common to experience a sense of chaos, a lack of control over your own path. There are different circumstances that will impact how you experience divorce; the length of the marriage, whether there are children from the relationship, the reason for the relationship ending, if you are the one who is making the decision to end it, whether it was unexpected or the divorce is coming after many years of the couple experiencing ongoing struggles in the relationship.However, everyone will experience a grieving process after the end of a long term relationship, even the person who is choosing to leave the marriage.Read More
Going through the grieving process
Everyone will experience grief of some sort at some point in life. After all, to love is to experience loss at some point. However, most people don't have a clear understanding of what grief is about. In my work, as I help people during these painful process I often hear questions about what “healthy” grieving should look like, what is normal for them to feel, how long is it ok for someone to continue experiencing symptoms of grief.
Hi! My name is Young.
I have a knowledgeable background in relationships and helping people improve how they feel. I can give an unbiased perspective, as well as my experience of being a man. I understand the pressures and expectations imposed on men and how we can work together to stop these pressures from hindering your day to day life or your relationships. If you’re having trouble convincing your male partner to come into couples counseling, knowing the counselor will be a male therapist may help encourage him. If you have a poor experience with men in your life, this counseling will be a good place to experience something healthy and different.Read More
What is EMDR and What should I expect?
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. This research-based therapy technique is most beneficial to those seeking treatment for trauma and anxiety. When someone experiences an extreme negative reaction or feeling in response to a certain situation or memory, EMDR is used to help replace the negative emotions with more relaxed reactions. Ultimately, EMDR offers relief and a more positive outlook in facing similar types of stressors.Read More
Your Trauma Therapy San Diego
Some experiences stick with us, not always in a good way. The experience of emotional or physical trauma can have lasting consequences on our psyche and our body. Trauma may look different to everyone. Some things, like a car wreck or physical abuse, are the most apparent. Whether the traumatic experience is obvious or not, many times we cope the best way we know how and go on about our lives. This can be effective for a short period of time but unless we truly give the wound the time and attention necessary to heal, it can become a heavy and isolating burden.Read More
5 Ways Counseling Helps Your Relationship
I always say that if one partner suggests marriage counseling… the relationship needs counseling. When a marriage is fulfilling for both partners, one of them will not suggest seeking outside help. Did your spouse recently suggest going to counseling, but you’re not so sure?Read More
If you are wondering if counseling is something you need, take a moment to consider something simple and profound: "Happy healthy parents make happy healthy children,” says Dr. Miriam Stoppard in her book Conception, Pregnancy & Birth: The Childbirth Bible for Today's Parents.Read More
Talk therapy has been around for awhile, but some people still have some misperceptions about it – and that’s OK. I am here to help!
Talk therapy basically refers to any sort of therapy where you talk with a counselor to get to the bottom of your emotions and problems. Talking about your issues can make you feel better emotionally and physically. Here are 3 talk therapy myths – and why I am busting them!Read More
Don't Let Anxiety Take Over
If you suffer from anxiety it can be hard to maintain a strong bond with your partner. When you are freaking out and he or she tries to get close, your fear might tell you to push your partner away. In reality, it’s important to learn to turn to your partner and gang up together against your anxiety, but this might not come naturally.Read More
Premarital counseling is not just for couples in severe distress.
Premarital counseling can help you build a strong base for your future as a married couple. It will help provide you the tools necessary to learn how to communicate better with each other. Sometimes what seems like a small issue has the potential to grow into a substantial wedge and you don't realize it just yet. Your therapist may even see some red flags and point them out to you so you can work through these before they become damaging to the relationship.
Here are three main reasons that seeing a professional counselor before the wedding day is a good idea.