Love isn't the only thing a relationship needs to stay alive. It needs attention, emotional security, and effective communication. Without all of these factors, you may lose the closeness and trust with your partner that is essential to your success.
Here are some quick tips for successfully staying connected to your partner.
- Stay connected to your partner by sexting or leaving love notes.
Keeping in touch throughout the day will keep you on each other’s mind and you’ll be excited to see one another at the end of the day! Love notes also let your spouse know you are thinking about them despite a busy schedule or other things going on in your life.
- Make your relationship a PRIORITY! Don’t leave it last on the “to-do” list.
Don’t take your partner for granted! You have to work on your relationship in order for it to thrive. If you just assume that your partner knows you love them, they may drift away. Actively think about how to improve your relationship and spend more time alone together.
- Get educated on how to have healthy communication. Education leads to change.
It can be hard to have healthy communication if one or both people in the relationship don’t have an easy time expressing emotions. Counselors are one good resource — by sitting down with an impartial person, you can each learn how to own your responsibility for good communication.
- Reach out to your partner when you’re feeling down, depressed, doubtful, or afraid.
Your partner should be your first resource when you feel down. This lets them know that you trust them with your vulnerability, and keeps them in the loop about where your head is at.
- Give HUGS daily … and maybe even hourly when you are around one another.
Hugs are a simple act that show you care!
- Thank your partner for the little things. Little things add up!
Don’t ever assume your partner knows how much you appreciate them or something they have done. Tell them, so it’s clear! Everyone wants to feel validated and appreciated.
- Teach your partner that you are a safe place.
Listen to your partner and validate their feelings. Show them you are a good sounding board and will give honest feedback that is not judgmental or hurtful.
A good relationship is always a work in progress. Practice these tips for the lifetime of your relationship to keep it healthy and strong.
About Jennine Estes, MFT
Think of me as your relationship consultant, I'm your neutral third party that can help you untangle the emotions and help you figure out what's really going on. I am a Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA. Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples. Supervisor. I write relationship and self growth advice for my column Relationships in the Raw. Creator of #BeingLOVEDIs campaign. MFC#47653