Couples Counseling in San Diego County, California
Never feel alone in your relationship again
Don’t let relationship issues strain your love any longer. Our couples counseling is your path to renewed intimacy and better communication. Let us guide you towards a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship today.
Never feel alone in your relationship again.
Wondering where all the romance went? Or feeling stuck in a relationship where “taking breaks” and the “silent treatment” just isn’t working? Maybe you’re feeling like your intimacy or sex life is stale? Maybe there’s been infidelity? Or maybe you just need a higher level of understanding and communication. There are many reasons to seek counseling. Whatever the reason, know that you are not alone.
“The average couple waits 6 years before seeking out therapy.” Dr. John Gottman
At Estes Therapy, we can help you learn how to create a stronger relationship through couples counseling that uses research-based techniques that have been proven to work. Either in-person or virtually, our approach to couples therapy is using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT is a research-based therapy approach that focuses on how to form and strengthen your attachments to your partner and others. You’ll learn about how to come together and connect at a deeper level during difficult moments and emotions, rather than those tough times creating distance between the two of you.
You will learn the tools to keep your emotions balanced during tough conversations, and better discuss and uphold boundaries. Our couples therapy in San Diego, California, will help you get a roadmap of where you need to go to create long-term change. Your couples therapist can then show you how to express your softer feelings and needs in a way that helps bring your partner closer and respond to you – so you can build a secure, lasting bond.
Great communication is the key to a great relationship.
Learning when to listen and when to speak in your relationship is an integral part of communication.
Often, many couples get to a point where they are only hearing (or sharing) the surface of the message, not the underlying emotions and needs. Many couples reach out to each other seeking connection but have gotten stuck in a negative pattern where this is not done in an effective way. Sadly, the underlying need for connection gets lost. Things turn tense and impact families, friends, careers, and other aspects of their lives.
Our Marriage and Family Therapists in San Diego are here to help you get unstuck and reconnect. One of our jobs with relationship counseling is to decrease old harbored resentments by resolving past injuries. By learning coping skills to deal with stressful issues, defining personal boundaries and boundaries in the relationship, and opening the lines of communication, you can begin to grow. These coping and communication tools will solidify and enhance that warm connection you need.
As experienced relationship and marriage therapists, we can tell you that every couples therapy session is different. Situations entwined with deeper, more complex wounds often require more commitment from both partners. But do not let this dissuade you. It won’t be easy, but the results are long-term and effective. Therapy will allow both of you to love deeper and harder than you ever imagined. Remember that this change takes time. We’re not putting a band-aid on the issues, only to have them resurface in a few months. Together we’ll be doing the hard work to rebuild a strong foundation for lasting change.
- Negative Patterns
- Loss of Connection
- Harbored Resentments
- Coping Skills
- Personal Boundaries
- Communication Tools
- Emotional Depth
- Long-Term Change
Therapy helps, even if everything is "perfect"
Learning when to listen and when to speak in your relationship is an integral part of communication.
Couples Counseling in San Diego, CA, can be the prevention rather than the intervention. Too often, couples use counseling as a last resort – research has shown that couples wait up until 7 years after the onset of an issue before seeking help for it. You don’t need to wait until the point of no return to improve your relationship. Just like you have regular doctor check-ins and car tune-ups, you should be checking in with your relationship. It’s too easy to let date nights, check-ins, and making time for a connection get pushed to the back burner when life gets busy. One day, you’re preoccupied with work and children; the next, you wonder where the romance went. Working on your communication patterns early in the relationship is the heart and center of saving you a substantial amount of heartache down the road! If you are contemplating if couples therapy is for you (spoiler: it is!), you can check out some of the top reasons people seek couples counseling.
- Financial Stress
- Life Transitions
- Sexual Issues
- Trust Issues
- Conflict Resolution
- Emotional Distance
- Loss of Intimacy
- Work-Life Balance
- Improper Substance Use
- Infidelity
Schedule a free 10-minute therapist matching appointment in San Diego CA
Visit us in Oceanside and Mission Valley in San Diego, CA. Your conversation with our trained matching expert will ensure a perfect fit for your therapist and you (and your partner). Click or call to get started.
Preparing for a Couples Counseling Session
Preparing for couples counseling in San Diego can help you feel calm, ready, and present when you are in the session.
Going into a therapy session can be overwhelming. You know you will be facing some tense discussions during the process. Remember that you are not alone and that you are facing this together as a team in order to have the best relationship possible. Whether visiting us in our office in San Diego, CA, for your appointment or preparing for your online therapy, here are some guidelines on how you can support yourself and your partner before a session.
1. Renew Your Purpose
Remind yourself why you are going to couples or marriage counseling.
You want a stronger relationship and a sense of safety and connection. If you have had previous sessions, identify one or two breakthroughs where either you or your partner was able to see or say something you hadn’t noticed before.
Even small signs of progress mean that your relationship is growing!
2. Show Affection
Don’t underestimate the calming and connecting power of a hug, kiss, holding hands, or a quick snuggle before walking into the waiting room.
3. Clear Your Mind
Areas of insecurity and anger often come up in these conversations and it can build a sense of dread before the counseling session.
If you need to, try writing down the things that are running through your mind. Some of them may be relationship related, but you may find that work and other issues are adding to your stress. Try to let those go so they don’t hijack your emotional presence for your session.
Take a few deep breaths. Imagine the tension leaving with each exhale. As you inhale, visualize a blanket of calm settling over your body.
4. Provide Reassurance
Verbally acknowledge that you two are a team.
Acknowledge that you are learning how to communicate better with one another, and that you are working on the marriage. Having each other’s back helps make it safe enough to talk about the hard stuff.
5. Get on the Same Page
If there was one thing you could discuss in this session, what would it be? Check-in to see if you are both to address the same thing in session. (You can also do this the night before). Agreeing on an agenda puts you on the same side even when addressing an area of conflict.
Ultimately, you will get the most out of your sessions when you agree on your purpose and keep showing up to do the work for your relationship. You’ve already taken the first step by researching marriage counseling and getting started.
Remember, you’re in this together, and we’re here to help guide you and at times remind you of that.
Start therapy solo or start together
As relationship and marriage counselors, we work with many couples of all marital statuses, genders, and sexualities, as well as monogamous or consensually non-monogamous locally. Our professional help in San Diego, CA, is not just beneficial for married individuals, it can also benefit any couple or co-parents to better your mental health. There are many signs when it’s time to start looking for help so don’t ignore them.
Whether you’re working on yourself or working with your partner, it all starts with a free 10-minute matching appointment with our Care Coordinator.
All the Ways Therapy Helps Yourself and Others
Here you can browse the different ways we help couples and individuals in San Diego county, California. We provide in-person/face-to-face counseling sessions and virtual/telehealth sessions.
Individual Counseling
Couples/Marriage Counseling
Premarital Counseling
LGBTQIA+ Counselng
Military Counseling
Infidelity and Affair Counseling
Child and Teen Counseling
Affordable Counseling
Online Therapy (Telehealth)
Schedule a free 10-minute matching appointment today and start your journey to healing.
Your conversation with our trained matching expert will make sure there is a perfect fit for your therapist and you (and your partner). Click or call to get started
Meet our San Diego Area Relationship Therapists
Think of us as your consultants in recovery. We are the neutral third party that can help you untangle the emotions and figure out what’s really going on.
We want everyone, including children, to walk in our door and get the necessary tools. Our psychotherapy sessions are relaxed, collaborative, and effective for both individuals and couples. We want to hear your story. Each of our licensed marriage and family therapists is dedicated to ensuring you’re in a comfortable space to feel safe and supported when you tell your story. With the help of an Estes therapist in San Diego, you and your partner can heal with empathy and move forward with lasting results. We’re not here to put a band-aid on any different issues. We’re here to get to the root of the issue to facilitate lasting change and success in your goals with couples therapy.
Meet our Founder, Jennine Estes Powell
It’s been nearly 20 years since I first became interested in studying psychotherapy. I began practicing scientific approaches to psychotherapy in 1997, and I have been hooked since then.
I earned my Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family psychotherapy in 2004, and am currently licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist MFT (LMFT #47653) with the Board of Behavioral Sciences (BBS).
I focus my practice on empirically based and proven research methods such as emotional-focused therapy (EFT), eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR), and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).
I’ve seen these techniques consistently get results, and I truly believe they are the most effective at creating positive, long-term change.
Have a question about fees or insurance?
It is common to have questions before starting therapy. Visit our Frequently Asked Questions page to get all of your questions answered.
