Couples Therapy for Infidelity: Dedicated Therapists That Help You Heal From a Relationship Betrayal
Healing is possible - even after infidelity.
Our experienced infidelity therapists understand the complexities of healing after all forms of infidelity or affair. They are here to support you and your partner, rebuild trust, mend your relationship, and find a path to forgiveness and a stronger bond. Embrace your authentic self and thrive with the guidance of our caring and experienced therapists.
Infidelity Therapy Helps Couples Rebuild Trust
When there has been an affair, cheating, betrayal, or infidelity in your relationship, it can leave a couple feeling shattered, hopeless, and terrified of the future of the relationship. Infidelity can happen in many forms, betraying the relationship and impacting its integrity:
- Physical Infidelity: Physical or sexual affairs with someone outside the relationship can profoundly affect the trust and intimacy between partners.
- Emotional Infidelity: Emotional affairs are characterized by deep emotional intimacy where a person feels closer to someone else other than their spouse or partner.
- Cyber Infidelity: This type of infidelity involves the engagement of one partner to other people through online messages, chats, and forums with or without sexual content.
- Object Infidelity: Object infidelity prioritizes an object, such as work, hobby, or phone, over a relationship.
- Financial Infidelity: When one partner hides how much they earn, how they earn their income, debt, and how they spend or loan their money, it is considered financial infidelity.
- Micro Cheating: Actions that cross the line of being a committed partner without the intention of straying are called micro-cheating. Examples are flirting with other people, asking for explicit photos of others online, and more.
- Combined Infidelity: Infidelity can include various elements, from financial secrecy to emotional affairs. For example, the secret relationship with a “work wife” or “gym husband” can both be a physical and emotional infidelity.
At Estes Therapy, we work with distressed couples recovering from various betrayals daily.
Yes – you read that right – our team of therapists works with these issues daily, and we are comfortable, competent, and compassionately committed to helping you navigate the waters of recovering from an affair with you and your partner. With research-based techniques of infidelity therapy, our licensed counselors help you heal the wounds of cheating and betrayal, rebuild trust, and recommit to the relationship again.
Infidelity Feels Hopeless—How Can Couples Heal After an Affair?
Here is the good news: our research-based marriage counseling and relationship counseling have been proven to work and help couples survive affairs. Affair counseling is couple or marriage counseling where counselors help both partners heal from betrayal. Our affair counseling and infidelity counseling at Estes Therapy provide a safe space for couples to express what they need and feel. Through proven methods, we provide a structured roadmap to face the injury and heal from infidelity. With a nonjudgmental counselor to help mediate and offer solutions, couples can rebuild trust, and healing can begin.
Whether starting your healing journey or working with your partner to recover from the sexual or emotional affair, it all begins with a free 10-minute matching session with our Care Coordinator to find the perfect therapist for you. You can visit us in our San Diego location in California for our infidelity therapy services.
For the Partner Cheated On: Trust May Feel Impossible
Navigate the pain and broken trust to build back stronger.
If your partner cheats, it may feel like something permanent has been carved out of your relationship. Your mental health is impacted as you question yourself and your relationship. Feelings of loss, grief, betrayal, anger, and self-doubt can make it seem like there’s no possibility of recovering the connection you once had following infidelity.
Those feelings are valid and you deserve a safe space to experience and express them.
When rebuilding trust, the first step to returning from infidelity is to understand where you are and believe there’s a better future on the horizon. Research has shown that couples can survive and find hope and safety in their relationship after an affair – and you can, too.
Let us help you find a new path. Our therapists create a safe space for you and your partner to share and heal. We’re a nonjudgmental third party helping you reconnect, rebuild, and repair the trust that has been broken. Let us give you the tools to move toward recovery after infidelity.
- Processing Emotions
- Rebuilding Self-Esteem
- Process the Impact
- Healing Trauma
- Breaking toxic patterns
For the Partner That Has Cheated: You Don’t Know How to Regain Your Partner’s Trust Again
Understand the root causes and commit to fixing them.
If you stepped outside of the relationship for an emotional affair and/or sexual affair, a major trauma has occurred for the other partner and the relationship itself. The hurt of infidelity is devastating. You might feel guilty, ashamed, scared, and maybe even defensive – and not know what to do to make it right. Your spouse or partner is understandably angry, scared, may even feel hopeless – and not know how to forgive or move forward from the infidelity.
Both of your feelings matter.
Our therapists provide a nonjudgmental space to understand what happened and provide each of you with specific tools that you – and your partner – will need to recover from this and move forward. We may even assign homework to help move the process forward at home. We understand the pain that betrayals, affairs, cheating, and infidelity can cause – so we will help give you the tools so that you can begin to find hope and healing fast.
- Rebuild Trust
- Manage Guilt and Shame
- Navigating the Impact
- Communication Skills
- Understand underlying issues
How Our Infidelity Counseling Helps Couples Recover From Affairs and Infidelity
Recovering from an affair isn’t easy, but we have helped thousands of couples rediscover the love and trust that first brought them together.
It’s not surprising that many of the couples we have worked with throughout many years have told us that they feel closer, more connected, and happier in their relationship after going through this affair counseling process with us than they did before they even knew about the affair.
That’s because the Estes Therapy team is dedicated to uncovering and healing the underlying issues underneath the affair and supporting couples in growing beyond infidelity.
Here’s how we do your recovery process.
Step 1. Your Therapist Helps You Address the Pain of Infidelity
We do this by first focusing on the wound itself and processing and recovering from the major emotional injury that affairs, infidelity, cheating, and all betrayals can create. Think of this like any injury – you can’t just ignore it, or it will not heal properly. We make sure to help the wound heal properly, focusing on both partners’ emotions and healing the trauma of the experience so you can both begin to move forward and feel better faster.
Step 2. Understand the Root Causes Behind the Affair
We then help the couple identify how they got to that place in the first place. When partners cheat, there are often unresolved wounds from the past that cause unhealthy coping, such as seeking emotional validation elsewhere or sexual addiction.
Our research-based techniques help the couple make sense of these situations that typically feel hopeless, shattering, painful, and traumatic. Couples begin to feel like they have a roadmap map of understanding how they got there in the first place and the negative communication patterns that come into play in their relationship that create disconnection, pain, and distance. Here, we would like to get to the root causes and solve them so these issues don’t arise again.
Step 3. Recommit and Rebuild Your Relationship with Infidelity Therapy
We then help couples recommit to the relationship and rebuild trust, focusing on how the couple can support each other and move forward. We understand that no one wants to focus on the past forever, but we must understand the past to heal and move into the future with hope and clarity. With the help of their therapist, the couple begins to create, build, and practice a new communication pattern built on trust, equality, and support.
Schedule a free 10-minute matching call with our Care Coordinator today and start healing.
All the Ways Therapy Helps Yourself and Others
Here you can browse the different ways we help couples and individuals in San Diego county, California. We provide in-person/face-to-face counseling sessions and virtual/telehealth sessions.
Individual Counseling
Couples/Marriage Counseling
Premarital Counseling
LGBTQIA+ Counselng
Military Counseling
Infidelity and Affair Counseling
Child and Teen Counseling
Affordable Counseling
Online Therapy (Telehealth)
Meet our San Diego Area Relationship Therapists
Think of us as your consultants in recovery. We are the neutral third party that can help you untangle the emotions and figure out what’s really going on.
We want everyone, including children, to walk in our door and get the necessary tools. Our psychotherapy sessions are relaxed, collaborative, and effective for both individuals and couples. We want to hear your story. Each of our licensed marriage and family therapists is dedicated to ensuring you’re in a comfortable space to feel safe and supported when you tell your story. With the help of an Estes therapist in San Diego, you and your partner can heal with empathy and move forward with lasting results. We’re not here to put a band-aid on any different issues. We’re here to get to the root of the issue to facilitate lasting change and success in your goals with couples therapy.
Meet our Founder, Jennine Estes Powell
It’s been nearly 20 years since I first became interested in studying psychotherapy. I began practicing scientific approaches to psychotherapy in 1997, and I have been hooked since then.
I earned my Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family psychotherapy in 2004, and am currently licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist MFT (LMFT #47653) with the Board of Behavioral Sciences (BBS).
I focus my practice on empirically based and proven research methods such as emotional-focused therapy (EFT), eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR), and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).
I’ve seen these techniques consistently get results, and I truly believe they are the most effective at creating positive, long-term change.
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