Women: Do You Say “Go” When You Really Mean “Stay”?

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Stop! Don't push him out the door when you should be fighting for the relationship

Do you push your partner away when you're in trouble? Sometimes when one partner is in pain, he or she will tell the other person to leave. Especially if your partner is the threatening to leave, your hurt feelings may cause you to react by saying, "Fine, just go!" You might mean that you want them to leave for the night or forever. In reality, many times when this happens you actually want your partner to stay and fight for the relationship -- you don't want them to go at all!

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Are You Apologizing Right?

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It's more than just saying "I'm Sorry" -- and here's why.

Saying that you're sorry after you know you've done something wrong is often not an easy task. You may have a hard time finding the right words, or be worried that the other person will reject your gesture. Even if you're anxious, the worst thing you can do is just say a generic "I'm sorry" without any feeling or sincerity.

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Relationship Playbook: Rules to Live By

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Here is a mini-playbook of sorts. It doesn't include everything you need to know for a healthy relationship, but it's a good start.

Relationships are forever evolving, and every relationship is unique to itself. Each relationship you have in your life will be different in some way from any other relationship. Still, there are some basic rules to live by when it comes to relationships. Are you looking for some tenets to follow in your relationship?

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An Interview: How to Improve Your Skin and Self-Esteem

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Want to Improve Your Skin and Self-Esteem? Take a Look Inside Your Fridge.

For the second part of the well-rounded health series we will look at how what you eat affects your skin, and ultimately how you feel inside. Meet Tracy Duhs, founder of The Santuary day spa. In this interview, she filled me in on the benefits of a raw food diet, and how she sees food as being essentially linked to skin care and feeling better. She even shared her favorite recipe!

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What You May Not Know About Counseling

What You May Not Know About Counseling

Hint: It's not as scary as you think!

One of the main reasons people tell me they avoid counseling is they just don't know what to expect. And let's face it -- what we don't know can create a great deal of fear. To make matters worth, you may have heard a myth or horror story about counseling that makes you even less likely to go. Fortunately, going to counseling isn't nearly as scary as you are making it out in your mind.

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How to Get Your Husband to Start Counseling

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Here's a Hint: You can't nag someone into wanting change

Marriage counseling only works if both parties are really commited to change, but sometimes one partner might be more accepting of the idea of therapy than the other. If you find yourself in a position where you really want to gets some outside help but your husband is resistant, being really aggressive about seeking a counselor might backfire. He may shut down altogether, which is no good because you need to enter counseling as a team.

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Signs of Effective Counseling

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How to identify when you are in counseling that works

If you're going into counseling for the very first time, it can be difficult to know how to gauge the process. How do you know if therapy is going to work for you? And how will you be able to tell if you should switch to a different counselor? Not all therapists are the same -- they use different methods and have different personalities. So, not all counselors will be effective for YOU.

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Sexual Addiction Resources

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Resources to help you take control of your life

No matter where you are in your recovery, you deserve the best support to help you along the way. Below you will find resources for support groups, books, and more.

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The #BeingLOVEDIs Project

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What does being loved mean to you?

Being loved is being human; we all want it and need it in our lives. Love is something we all can relate to and connect through with relationships. Love comes in many forms. Friends, family, pets, and lovers show their affection different from one another. I decided to start this project to understand how everyone experiences what being loved is, and the creative ways they decide to share it. Our hard wiring as a human is to feel connected through love. To give and receive love is part of our wiring.

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Top 10 Reasons You Should Start Counseling

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Don't wait until it is too late. Get the help you need.

Just like there isn't one single recipe for how therapy happens, there isn't a single reason why people should go to counseling. It's not just for "crazy" people, or the place to turn as a last resort. There are many reasons why you should seek help from counseling, from traumatic life events to ongoing depression. Here are some of the top reasons people should go to counseling:

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Making New Memories: The Importance of San Diego Couples’ Photo Shoot

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What the photography expert Sean Capshaw has to say:

Getting photographs as a couple might seem like a trivial thing, but it can actually help you stay connected! Life gets chaotic, and in the rush of things sometimes keeping track of milestones or just celebrating your relationship gets lost in the shuffle. When couples have kids, they might put a focus on tracking their children's growth and not stop to take photos of themselves. Having photos to hang of just yourselves as a couple serves as a reminder of your bond.

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Top 10 Reasons People Avoid Counseling

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Guess What! It isn't as bad as what you think!

Going to counseling can be a scary concept, so if you're avoiding it -- you're not alone. You might wonder if counseling will work, what it means about your relationship, and if the financial investment is really worth it. People put off finding counseling for plenty of reasons, but the truth is that you don't have to be ashamed about wanting help, and putting it off can likely make your situation worse. Here are some of the main reasons people avoid counseling.

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# BeingLOVEDIs Charity Event Success!

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Here was an event I had to give back to the community!

On Friday, January 18th I asked the San Diego community to come together at 1202 nightclub in Hillcrest to help me support Christie's Place. I could not be more grateful, because the event was a huge success! We raised over $2,000 for a great charity, and so many people came out to help pull it all together.

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