Creating a Healthy Vacation as a Couple

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Going away on vacation is an essential part of a stress-free life style. Sometimes we all need a break from the daily grind to get back into a physically and emotionally healthy state. Whether it’s an expensive trip abroad, or just a “staycation” where you rent a hotel room for a few nights in your own city, getting into holiday mode lets you relax, leave your worries behind, and reconnect as a couple.

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Breaking Up is Hard to Do — With Friends, Too.

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Why a friendship break up can be hard and how to move on

When you enter into romantic relationships, on some level you know that it may work out -- or it may not. This person could be with you for the long haul, or perhaps you'll grow apart and figure out he's not "the one." We don't place the same expectation with platonic girlfriends, however. If you have a BFF, you think that she'll be with you through it all -- failed romances, lost jobs, and even across geographical distances. You don't think to ask "will long distance work?" like you do with a boyfriend. So, when a friendship break up happens, it can be devastating.

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Online Dating Advice: How to bounce back quickly when things went wrong

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How to recover from an Internet relationship gone wrong

If you haven't seen the documentary or television show called "Catfish," it's a good tool for learning how to protect yourself when in an online relationship. The term
"catfish" in relation to online dating stems from the way real catfish behave when they're in a container with another fish. The catfish will nip at the other fish's fins constantly, keeping the other fish active and making life interesting. In the realm of Internet dating, a catfish is a person who keeps you on your toes in a similar way. They do this by refusing to meet in person, coming up with excuses to get out of Skype or phone chats, and often telling tall tales -- all of which means you're left guessing and feeling emotional highs and lows.

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Building a Private Practice: Mentoring Package to help you along the way

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You can get clients now...you simply need to learn how

When I first started my therapy practiced, I remember the discouraging words other therapists would say to me. They’d say, “Don’t waste your time, it took me 3 years to get 8 clients.” Most people told me it would only be a part time job and that I would have to work in a clinic or at a hospital. My determination wasn’t going to let the discouraging words keep me from reaching my business dream. The funny thing was that I never thought of myself as a business woman. But throughout the years, the views I once had of myself changed.

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Bored? How to Build Self Esteem Through Community Fun

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How joining the circus just might change your life.

Finding a passion in your life can do worlds for your self esteem and state of mind. Whether it’s a sport, hobby, doing some sort of crafting project, or literally joining the circus – finding something you are truly invested in helps you find joy and fulfillment in your life. What’s even better is finding a group of people who also have the same passion. When you have a common interest with a group of people, a family can form, which will serve as a support system during the best and worst times in your life. Here's how to build self esteem by leveraging your hobbies and neighbors.

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One Woman’s Story: To Be or Not to Be…a Parent

One Womans Story: To Be or Not to Be a Parent

One woman's story about how she's coming to terms with infertility and her feelings about childlessness

Deciding whether or not to be a parent is not an easy choice to come by, and sometimes our decision on the subject can fluctuate -- even within the same day. Other times, we are not given the choice to have biological children, but can still choose to adopt. Below is the story of a friend of mine, who wishes to remain anonymous. She wanted to share her feelings on what it's like to be uncertain about becoming a parent, and how sometimes being childless is a choice, while other times it's an unintended circumstance.

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Women: Do You Say “Go” When You Really Mean “Stay”?

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Stop! Don't push him out the door when you should be fighting for the relationship

Do you push your partner away when you're in trouble? Sometimes when one partner is in pain, he or she will tell the other person to leave. Especially if your partner is the threatening to leave, your hurt feelings may cause you to react by saying, "Fine, just go!" You might mean that you want them to leave for the night or forever. In reality, many times when this happens you actually want your partner to stay and fight for the relationship -- you don't want them to go at all!

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Are You Apologizing Right?

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It's more than just saying "I'm Sorry" -- and here's why.

Saying that you're sorry after you know you've done something wrong is often not an easy task. You may have a hard time finding the right words, or be worried that the other person will reject your gesture. Even if you're anxious, the worst thing you can do is just say a generic "I'm sorry" without any feeling or sincerity.

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Relationship Playbook: Rules to Live By

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Here is a mini-playbook of sorts. It doesn't include everything you need to know for a healthy relationship, but it's a good start.

Relationships are forever evolving, and every relationship is unique to itself. Each relationship you have in your life will be different in some way from any other relationship. Still, there are some basic rules to live by when it comes to relationships. Are you looking for some tenets to follow in your relationship?

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An Interview: How to Improve Your Skin and Self-Esteem

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Want to Improve Your Skin and Self-Esteem? Take a Look Inside Your Fridge.

For the second part of the well-rounded health series we will look at how what you eat affects your skin, and ultimately how you feel inside. Meet Tracy Duhs, founder of The Santuary day spa. In this interview, she filled me in on the benefits of a raw food diet, and how she sees food as being essentially linked to skin care and feeling better. She even shared her favorite recipe!

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What You May Not Know About Counseling

What You May Not Know About Counseling

Hint: It's not as scary as you think!

One of the main reasons people tell me they avoid counseling is they just don't know what to expect. And let's face it -- what we don't know can create a great deal of fear. To make matters worth, you may have heard a myth or horror story about counseling that makes you even less likely to go. Fortunately, going to counseling isn't nearly as scary as you are making it out in your mind.

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How to Get Your Husband to Start Counseling

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Here's a Hint: You can't nag someone into wanting change

Marriage counseling only works if both parties are really commited to change, but sometimes one partner might be more accepting of the idea of therapy than the other. If you find yourself in a position where you really want to gets some outside help but your husband is resistant, being really aggressive about seeking a counselor might backfire. He may shut down altogether, which is no good because you need to enter counseling as a team.

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