In parenting and professional circles, the phrase “helicopter parenting” has become a bit of a buzzword in recent decades. It refers to a parenting style with a mindset of prevention and rescue. This kind of parenting is most common with mothers but fathers, too, may have a compulsive need to help their child out of tough situations. So are you a helicopter parent?Read More
The internet is a great tool for accessing information, keeping in touch with friends and family, and even making new friends. When I see clients who are lacking a support network, sometimes they feel much better after attending a MeetUp group they found on the internet or making new connections online. However, sometimes being online can go too far. Internet addictions interrupt daily life and can hinder important relationships – even your marriage.Read More
How to Say "Eh" Without Killing the Mood
Usually the most productive conversations about what goes on in the bedroom happen outside of the bedroom, but sometimes in the moment you need to get your partner on the same page. A lot of times we hesitate to talk about sex during sex for fear of hurting our partner’s feelings or to avoid “killing the mood” but the truth is that when you are not fully present, the sexual experience is just not what it should be.Read More
Every relationship could happily do without dramatic confrontations and the mess that ensues. So how do you have the tough conversation without the theatrics or name calling? Overcoming hurt is not a simple thing. Each of you have an array of feelings and it is important for both of you to share what you need.Read More
If your relationship is unstable and unsafe, it is important to have a way to protect yourself. If you have children, you are responsible for their well-being also. Having a safety plan can help you process your emotional state and regain a sense of power in a seemingly helpless situation. When you have clarity on how to feel safe, the “when” of it becomes more attainable: soon or now.Read More
This may sound familiar: you and your partner are sitting in the car, a mere two feet from one another, yet nobody is speaking. You try to start a conversation, but getting your partner to say more than a few words feels like pulling teeth from the mouth of an angry crocodile. You realize that you may have done something wrong, but your partner won’t tell you what it was.Read More
You will be shocked by what I learned about control in relationships while mountain biking.Read More
5 Ways Counseling Helps Your Relationship
I always say that if one partner suggests marriage counseling… the relationship needs counseling. When a marriage is fulfilling for both partners, one of them will not suggest seeking outside help. Did your spouse recently suggest going to counseling, but you’re not so sure?Read More
If you are wondering if counseling is something you need, take a moment to consider something simple and profound: "Happy healthy parents make happy healthy children,” says Dr. Miriam Stoppard in her book Conception, Pregnancy & Birth: The Childbirth Bible for Today's Parents.Read More
Dating Advice by Jen Zajac, IMF
So you have a date -- regardless of your gender and if you were asked or did the asking, it’s likely you have some pre-date butterflies. We all have a desire to be perceived in our best light ("charming", if you will), and the pressure of ‘getting everything right’ on our first impression (or first few impressions) can be stressful. It’s human to want to be liked, and many often fret about saying the wrong thing or coming across the wrong way (especially if we have already established that we do indeed have an interest in the other party). The most charming dates are those that show genuine interest in getting to know their dates.Read More
Infidelity is almost always a source of intense hurt and emotional distress, but an affair doesn’t have to mean your relationship is over.
While infidelity is rated as the most serious hurtful event a couple can face, many marriages and relationships can survive the storm and sometimes even make it through even stronger than before the affair occurred. Let’s face it though, it’s going to be a tough road ahead to overcome the damage of an affair and both partners need to be truly motivated to heal.
A lot of the couples I see in my office are having issues because of the internet. Or, maybe I should say the internet is bringing to light issues that exist in the relationship. Facebook, Twitter, San Diego Craigslist -- these are just some of the sites that get mentioned in my office. My advice is always to set boundaries and stick to them when it comes to online activity.
3 mindful practices for co-parenting in high conflict situations
Our first impression of relationships comes from our parents, whether we like it or not. The good news is that parents have a unique opportunity to help children receive love and construct safe boundaries. Now and again, however, parents struggle in their relationship with each other -- sometimes resulting in separation and divorce, other times requiring repair. What's one to do when there are kids in the mix?Read More