Communication is absolutely essential
...yet it seems to be the most difficult part of relationships. Couples frequently come into my office saying they want “healthier communication.” But what does that really mean? All of these high-functioning, business-oriented, goal-driven couples communicate with one another by expressing how they feel and discussing ongoing issues. They regurgitate their problems over and over, reshape the way they say things, shift their perspective, and constantly try various ways to explain their side. So why isn't it working?
How to create a positive self-image
Self-esteem and confidence are the overall opinion you have of yourself and they can impact your daily experiences. Your level of self-esteem affects virtually all areas of your life; the type of people you attract, your career building, and relationships, as well as other important areas.
Pre-marital counseling is a preventive tool.
It is used to help establish a foundation early in the relationship, offer advice on ways to maintain a healthy connection and create a lasting commitment through effective communication. Relationships are an investment; the more you put into it, the more it will grow and mature. The more it grows and matures, the more you will get out of it. Statistics show that nearly 50% of marriages end in divorce (US Census Bureau, February 2002), pre-marital counseling can help couples avoid becoming part of that statistic.
Don't Wait to Deflate or Pop!
Stress and anxiety can come in many forms and can be difficult to deal with on a daily basis. You may notice them impacting how you work, the way you parent, or even the way you communicate in your relationship.
Love isn't the only thing a relationship needs to stay alive. It needs attention, emotional security, and effective communication. Without all of these factors, you may lose the closeness and trust with your partner that is essential to your success.
It might seem impossible, but you can learn to trust again when your partner has been unfaithful.
It may have all started with a flirtation, a simple flirtation. A harmless friendship — a simple shoulder to cry on when things weren't going right in your relationship — suddenly crossed the line. Innocent, flirtatious text messages soon led to anticipation for the next contact, and one night after one too many drinks, you took things further and ended up compromising your relationship.
This mistake whether it was one time or a long-term affair, was hidden, pushed aside, or buried under lies, because you knew you were wrong and didn’t want to lose your partner. As you attempted to keep your relationship on track and stay connected, reality soon hit and your partner found out about the affair.
How therapy can be helpful for relationships
Many people step into therapy questioning whether or not it will be helpful. My rule of thumb is that you won't know until you have given it a fair shot!
I personally believe that therapy is an extremely effective tool for helping people get through various struggles. As a therapist, I am not stuck in the middle of the storm, feeling every emotion or reacting to all the issues addressed. Instead, I get the chance to see the whole picture, without bias or subjectivity, whether I am helping an individual or a couple.
Intimacy is an all-encompassing word, with sex merely being one aspect of it. Intimacy in your marriage takes more than just spicing up your sex life.
Intimacy is a vital substance in the healthiest of relationships, and its existence allows partners to share their physical and emotional selves with each other, openly and safely.
If you can find it in yourself to be more emotionally intimate in your relationship, both you and your loved one will definitely reap the rewards in the bedroom!