What messages do you send to your partner in bed? Do you send the message that you are open for sexual intimacy? Do you show that you care?
Or are you sending a huge "Stop" sign that says you don't want to get close?
Break the patterns that hold you back.
If you find yourself in a pattern of unsuccessful relationships, then you may have a relationship dynamic pattern that is familiar to you, but not working. Sometimes this is unconscious and causes us to act out with behavior of which we are unaware. In order to get ready for a relationship, you need to address any self-destructive habits that are holding you back.Read More
Communication is absolutely essential
...yet it seems to be the most difficult part of relationships. Couples frequently come into my office saying they want “healthier communication.” But what does that really mean? All of these high-functioning, business-oriented, goal-driven couples communicate with one another by expressing how they feel and discussing ongoing issues. They regurgitate their problems over and over, reshape the way they say things, shift their perspective, and constantly try various ways to explain their side. So why isn't it working?Read More
How to create a positive self-image
Self-esteem and confidence are the overall opinion you have of yourself and they can impact your daily experiences. Your level of self-esteem affects virtually all areas of your life; the type of people you attract, your career building, and relationships, as well as other important areas.Read More
Pre-marital counseling is a preventive tool.
It is used to help establish a foundation early in the relationship, offer advice on ways to maintain a healthy connection and create a lasting commitment through effective communication. Relationships are an investment; the more you put into it, the more it will grow and mature. The more it grows and matures, the more you will get out of it. Statistics show that nearly 50% of marriages end in divorce (US Census Bureau, February 2002), pre-marital counseling can help couples avoid becoming part of that statistic.
Don't Wait to Deflate or Pop!
Stress and anxiety can come in many forms and can be difficult to deal with on a daily basis. You may notice them impacting how you work, the way you parent, or even the way you communicate in your relationship.Read More
Love isn't the only thing a relationship needs to stay alive. It needs attention, emotional security, and effective communication. Without all of these factors, you may lose the closeness and trust with your partner that is essential to your success.Read More
Don't spend your life stressed out
As a therapist in San Diego, I focus on helping my clients find more effective and useful ways to cope with anxiety and stop stress. Stress and anxiety come in many forms and can be difficult to deal with on a daily basis. You might notice it impacting how you work, the way you parent, or even the way you communicate in your relationships.Read More
How therapy can be helpful for relationships
Many people step into therapy questioning whether or not it will be helpful. My rule of thumb is that you won't know until you have given it a fair shot!
I personally believe that therapy is an extremely effective tool for helping people get through various struggles. As a therapist, I am not stuck in the middle of the storm, feeling every emotion or reacting to all the issues addressed. Instead, I get the chance to see the whole picture, without bias or subjectivity, whether I am helping an individual or a couple.