Do you want to get the most out of your counseling session? If so, make a day of your session! There are a few things you can do to help you get the most out of your therapy and improve your relationships. Many people cram their therapy appointment in between a busy day and don’t have much time to absorb the information. Our brains need to process the information to make it stick. Here are a few tips you can do on making the most out of your time with the therapist.Read More
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy? And How Does it Improve Relationships?
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a short-term strategic therapy approach working with couples. It is a researched bases showing long term change in working with couples. The therapy approach focuses on creating a secure relationship by helping couples learn how to stop old communication patterns, decreasing their reactivity (either quickly snapping or shutting down), and creating an emotionally safe relationship.Read More
Can your love go the distance with the distance in miles between you? This is a question surprisingly many couples are faced with in today’s society. With thousands of men and women in the military on their scheduled deployments, and spouses seeking jobs outside their county due to market declines, this is much more common now than ever. So we ask our self….. Can we make it? How do we make it? And the ever infamous question of, “will he stay faithful?” These questions can and will taunt an individual all the days of their lives if they do not have a good solid foundation in their relationship.Read More
From the time you are a young child to adolescent stages, you always envision what your life will be like. When a “grown up” asks you, “so what do you want to be when you grow up?” And that gets you thinking. Children are so eager to be like their mom and dad, or their older sister or brother. They long for the days where they can be grown up themselves and have their vision of that perfect career and family.Read More
How do I stop being so invested in social media?
You may have experienced the feeling when you sit in front of your computer working and you see a message from Facebook staring at you. You think to yourself, “I will make a quick response and then get right back on track with work and be productive.” But next thing you know, you are reading the hilarious posts from friends, responding to interesting conversations, and saying hi to friends you haven’t seen for a while. As your “quick” peak evolves into a long-long time, the facebooking feels “addicting.” Does this sound familiar? You might have a Facebook addiction.Read More
John Gottman, a marriage and parenting researcher, has written about behaviors that are damaging to relationships, along with seven principles needed to make marriage work. The following are some of the habits and behaviors that Gottoman has identified as being hurtful. When you read the list, focus on any behaviors that you do within your own relationship, and avoid searching for how your partner is within the relationship. The more you are aware of your OWN behaviors, the easier it will be to stop them.Read More
How to deal with the guilt and make a decision
Women who have affairs can often feel as if their marriage has had a long death. You may have been emotionally unfulfilled for years, longing for a connection that feels unrequited. After years of reaching out and thinking it’s not working…you burn out. Sometimes, a certain someone can walk into your life and ignite a spark. This new relationship gets you excited, makes you feel validated, and might even make you feel like a Victoria Secret model. However, affairs can also bring guilt and shame, and figuring out how to resolve both relationships won’t be easy. Here’s what you need to know.Read More
Self-esteem and confidence are basically an overall opinion of how you think about yourself, and can impact daily experiences. Our level of self-esteem affects virtually all of the areas of our lives, from the type of people we attract and our relationships, to career building and other important areas.
It is very important to show your partner that you are trustworthy. Trust really is the foundation of your relationship -- it allows you to feel vulnerable and be honest with each other. In the beginning of a relationship, or after trust has been broken, you will need to build the trust. Here are a few quick tips.Read More
Communication is the key to a successful relationship. And many couples overlook the importance of how to talk to one another. Here are a few tips on making your communication positive.Read More
Ask any happy couple what keeps the intimacy strong between them, and you'll more than likely hear that communication is the foundation of a successful relationship. You wouldn't try to drive a car without filling the gas tank, and you shouldn't attempt to nurture a relationship without honest, open communication. Intimacy isn't simply in the bedroom; it starts in the morning, grows throughout the day, and ends when you fall asleep.Read More
Do you ever feel overwhelmed, stressed, or maxed out? Maybe you are feeling as if your anxiety is taking over your social, work, and/or love life?Read More
Breakups suck. Plain and simple.Read More