Questions to Ask & Address Before You Say “I Do”

Questions to Ask & Address Before You Say “I Do”

Marriage is no simple, everyday thing. So make sure you are ready for this life-long commitment by addressing some of the fundamentals of the relationship.

There are thousands of questions that we can go through before getting married, but I chose the main issues that I continue to see couples struggle with. Having a game plan before you get married suppress the sometimes overwhelming feeling of, “am I making the right decision?” and will allow you and your future spouse to feel so connected and tightly knit that nothing can get break the everlasting bond you are about to enter.

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San Diego Crisis Resources

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Sometimes We Might Need a Little Help...

There are times when we simply can't manage to take on any more burden, pain, or suffering. The really hard days may feel unbearable, difficult to pick yourself up, or hopeless about your situation. It is at this time when reaching out for outside help might do the trick....or at least help you get moving in the right direction.

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How to Communicate with Wedding Vendors

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It’s time to plan your wedding and tie the knot!

Planning a wedding is fun for some brides and grooms, yet for others it can be full of ups-and-downs. Some of the “downers” in wedding planning is the mis communication and difficult contacts with vendors. Since a large portion of wedding planning is communicating with vendors, I decided to reach out directly to other wedding vendors to hear what they had to say about preventing miscommunication.

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Relationship Resources

Take Action, Be In Control....from the Inside Out

Below are different links, resources, and tools that will help you navigate through life. You will find various resources such as my column Relationships in the Raw, article pieces that I have written, books that I recommend to my clients, crisis hotlines, and other links that I think might be useful to you. As always, if there are questions or concerns about your current situation, please contact me immediately. Resources are always useful, but never a solution to self help your own issues.

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LGBT Resources

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GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENDER RESOURCES

San Diego has a wealth of services available to the LGBT community, if you know where to look. In addition to offering therapy services to the LGBT community at Estes Therapy, we're happy to share some of the other LGBT resources in our city. All of the organizations below offer help to the San Diego LGBT community, from wedding planning to finding a place of worship.

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Single? Don’t Sweat It – the positives of being single

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Why it's better to be happily ever single than in a mediocre relationship.

Sometimes when a relationship ends, or you haven’t been in a relationship for a while, you might start to feel down or as if being single is the worst thing in the world. Or, you might stay in a relationship that is less than stellar because you’re afraid of being alone. In reality, it’s better to be single, strong, and happy than be in a mediocre relationship just so you have the validation of being a part of a couple. There are several positives to being single instead of staying in a bad relationship.

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Is Wedding Budget Stress Getting to You?

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How to deal with wedding budget stress

Between choosing wedding vendors, dealing with pushy relatives, and spending lots of money, there are many reasons planning a wedding is stressful. In spite of the whirlwind that the months leading up to the big day can become, there are ways to get through it in one piece. One of the most crucial ways in which you can bring your blood pressure back to normal is by controlling your budget. Pinch some pennies and you will reduce your stress level, making it much easier to enjoy the wedding process!

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3 Reasons to Think Before You Text Angry

3 Reasons to Think Before You Text Angry

Communicating Effectively with Text

With the advent of text messaging, it’s easy to send a quick message to your significant other when you’re in a hurry. While texting is faster than an email, and usually more convenient since your phone is on you at all times, you should think twice before you send a message in anger. Sometimes texting can backfire – what you say may be taken the wrong way, or you might send something too quickly and then wish you hadn’t.

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5 Signs You’re a Bridezilla and How to Stop!

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Simple steps to keep your wedding stress in check

Planning a wedding is stressful for any bride – between budgeting, making important decisions and dealing with the drama when things go wrong, the months leading up to a wedding are often a whirlwind. However, your wedding should be a happy day, so it’s important not to let the stress make you someone you’re not. If you become a crabby, selfish Bridezilla, you may end up ruining your special day or worse – some of your friendships!

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Blended Family Wedding? How to Handle Your Kids’ Breakdowns

Blended Family Wedding? How to Handle Your Kids' Breakdowns

Wedding Advice if one or both people have kids

When you are marrying someone new and one or both of you have children, there are bound to be some aches and pains along the way. Even if everyone gets along, it can be difficult for your kids to see you enter into a new marriage and have new siblings. Ideally, you can sit down with your kids and talk about how they’re handling things before your big wedding day. In the worst case scenario, your children will have a meltdown right before you walk down the aisle.

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Wedding Rings: More Than Just a Band of Gold

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All wedding rings and engagement rings are unique, both in their appearance and significance. For some couples, the rings involved with engagement and marriage are a way to publicly show their love and commitment, and they hold deep meaning. For other couples, these rings are just an expected part of the marriage and don’t have a huge significance. Regardless of what the rings mean to the couple, in my therapy practice I have found that how a couple looks at wedding rings tends to reflect the dynamic of the relationship itself.

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Couples Counseling: What to Expect

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It’s normal to feel a bit anxious before you go to counseling, in part because you’re unsure about what is about to happen! In reality, coming to therapy at my office doesn’t need to be a scary prospect. From your first session to all subsequent visits, I am only here to help you become a stronger couple and improve the state of your relationship – I won’t judge or take a side.

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Things You Can Do Before and After Counseling in Mission Valley

Things You Can Do Before and After Counseling in Mission Valley

Do you want to get the most out of your counseling session? If so, make a day of your session! There are a few things you can do to help you get the most out of your therapy and improve your relationships. Many people cram their therapy appointment in between a busy day and don’t have much time to absorb the information. Our brains need to process the information to make it stick. Here are a few tips you can do on making the most out of your time with the therapist.

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Emotionally Focused Therapy San Diego

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What is Emotionally Focused Therapy? And How Does it Improve Relationships?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a short-term strategic therapy approach working with couples. It is a researched bases showing long term change in working with couples. The therapy approach focuses on creating a secure relationship by helping couples learn how to stop old communication patterns, decreasing their reactivity (either quickly snapping or shutting down), and creating an emotionally safe relationship.

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