Is Wedding Budget Stress Getting to You?

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How to deal with wedding budget stress

Between choosing wedding vendors, dealing with pushy relatives, and spending lots of money, there are many reasons planning a wedding is stressful. In spite of the whirlwind that the months leading up to the big day can become, there are ways to get through it in one piece. One of the most crucial ways in which you can bring your blood pressure back to normal is by controlling your budget. Pinch some pennies and you will reduce your stress level, making it much easier to enjoy the wedding process!

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3 Reasons to Think Before You Text Angry

3 Reasons to Think Before You Text Angry

Communicating Effectively with Text

With the advent of text messaging, it’s easy to send a quick message to your significant other when you’re in a hurry. While texting is faster than an email, and usually more convenient since your phone is on you at all times, you should think twice before you send a message in anger. Sometimes texting can backfire – what you say may be taken the wrong way, or you might send something too quickly and then wish you hadn’t.

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5 Signs You’re a Bridezilla and How to Stop!

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Simple steps to keep your wedding stress in check

Planning a wedding is stressful for any bride – between budgeting, making important decisions and dealing with the drama when things go wrong, the months leading up to a wedding are often a whirlwind. However, your wedding should be a happy day, so it’s important not to let the stress make you someone you’re not. If you become a crabby, selfish Bridezilla, you may end up ruining your special day or worse – some of your friendships!

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Blended Family Wedding? How to Handle Your Kids’ Breakdowns

Blended Family Wedding? How to Handle Your Kids' Breakdowns

Wedding Advice if one or both people have kids

When you are marrying someone new and one or both of you have children, there are bound to be some aches and pains along the way. Even if everyone gets along, it can be difficult for your kids to see you enter into a new marriage and have new siblings. Ideally, you can sit down with your kids and talk about how they’re handling things before your big wedding day. In the worst case scenario, your children will have a meltdown right before you walk down the aisle.

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Wedding Rings: More Than Just a Band of Gold

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All wedding rings and engagement rings are unique, both in their appearance and significance. For some couples, the rings involved with engagement and marriage are a way to publicly show their love and commitment, and they hold deep meaning. For other couples, these rings are just an expected part of the marriage and don’t have a huge significance. Regardless of what the rings mean to the couple, in my therapy practice I have found that how a couple looks at wedding rings tends to reflect the dynamic of the relationship itself.

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Couples Counseling: What to Expect

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It’s normal to feel a bit anxious before you go to counseling, in part because you’re unsure about what is about to happen! In reality, coming to therapy at my office doesn’t need to be a scary prospect. From your first session to all subsequent visits, I am only here to help you become a stronger couple and improve the state of your relationship – I won’t judge or take a side.

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Things You Can Do Before and After Counseling

Do you want to get the most out of your counseling session? If so, make a day of your session! There are a few things you can do to help you get the most out of your therapy and improve your relationships. Many people cram their therapy appointment in between a busy day and don’t have much time to absorb the information. Our brains need to process the information to make it stick. Here are a few tips you can do on making the most out of your time with the therapist.

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Emotionally Focused Therapy San Diego

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What is Emotionally Focused Therapy? And How Does it Improve Relationships?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a short-term strategic therapy approach working with couples. It is a researched bases showing long term change in working with couples. The therapy approach focuses on creating a secure relationship by helping couples learn how to stop old communication patterns, decreasing their reactivity (either quickly snapping or shutting down), and creating an emotionally safe relationship.

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Help! My Husband is Getting Deployed

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Can your love go the distance with the distance in miles between you? This is a question surprisingly many couples are faced with in today’s society. With thousands of men and women in the military on their scheduled deployments, and spouses seeking jobs outside their county due to market declines, this is much more common now than ever. So we ask our self….. Can we make it? How do we make it? And the ever infamous question of, “will he stay faithful?” These questions can and will taunt an individual all the days of their lives if they do not have a good solid foundation in their relationship.

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A Brady Story: Blending Children Together in a Second Marriage

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From the time you are a young child to adolescent stages, you always envision what your life will be like. When a “grown up” asks you, “so what do you want to be when you grow up?” And that gets you thinking. Children are so eager to be like their mom and dad, or their older sister or brother. They long for the days where they can be grown up themselves and have their vision of that perfect career and family.

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Social Networking Series: The Facebook Addiction

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How do I stop being so invested in social media?

You may have experienced the feeling when you sit in front of your computer working and you see a message from Facebook staring at you. You think to yourself, “I will make a quick response and then get right back on track with work and be productive.” But next thing you know, you are reading the hilarious posts from friends, responding to interesting conversations, and saying hi to friends you haven’t seen for a while. As your “quick” peak evolves into a long-long time, the facebooking feels “addicting.” Does this sound familiar? You might have a Facebook addiction.

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Ways to Damage Your Relationship or Marriage

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John Gottman, a marriage and parenting researcher, has written about behaviors that are damaging to relationships, along with seven principles needed to make marriage work. The following are some of the habits and behaviors that Gottoman has identified as being hurtful. When you read the list, focus on any behaviors that you do within your own relationship, and avoid searching for how your partner is within the relationship. The more you are aware of your OWN behaviors, the easier it will be to stop them.

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Women Having Affairs: How to Make a Decision

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How to deal with the guilt and make a decision

Women who have affairs can often feel as if their marriage has had a long death. You may have been emotionally unfulfilled for years, longing for a connection that feels unrequited. After years of reaching out and thinking it’s not working…you burn out. Sometimes, a certain someone can walk into your life and ignite a spark. This new relationship gets you excited, makes you feel validated, and might even make you feel like a Victoria Secret model. However, affairs can also bring guilt and shame, and figuring out how to resolve both relationships won’t be easy. Here’s what you need to know.

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Self-Esteem: Building a More Confident You

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Self-esteem and confidence are basically an overall opinion of how you think about yourself, and can impact daily experiences. Our level of self-esteem affects virtually all of the areas of our lives, from the type of people we attract and our relationships, to career building and other important areas.

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