Want to Feel Lighter? Unpack Your Emotional Baggage

Emotional Baggage: Dealing with Trauma in Relationships

Getting your emotional baggage out in the open can support a healthy relationship in the long run.

We all have emotional baggage going into a relationship. After all, you haven’t been living in a bubble until you met your partner. Our emotional baggage can get heavy when we carry it alone, so it helps to share the load with a trusted partner. On the other hand, you don’t want to disclose your entire past to someone on the very first date. So when do you start to unpack your baggage in a relationship and how do you get help with this intense task?

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A Circus Event: Raising Money for a Good Cause

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I am giving back to the community with my BeingLOVEDIs project.

Being loved is part of being human; everyone is different and so are the perspectives on love. It is universal. Everyone knows the feeling and understands the concept. We all want to be loved and to give love back. Being loved has indescribable emotions that everyone connects with no matter the age, race, gender, economic status, or world they live in.

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Down After the Holidays? 6 Tips to Overcoming Post Holiday Depression

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You can beat your depression - It just might take a little bit of work.

Tis’ the season to be jolly….except no matter how hard you tried, you couldn’t seem to get cheerful. You made it through the holidays, but your depression still hasn’t gone away. You might also feel even more tired, lonely, and hopeless than you did during the holiday season. Feeling depressed after the holidays can hang on way too long.

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Cyber Bullying: One Woman’s Story

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Online bullying can start to unravel your life. Here is how one woman survived a bullying experience, and tips for how you can overcome it too.

Over the course of a few years I became friends on Twitter with a woman who I’ll call “Candace.” She was the victim of online bullies who relentlessly bothered her, threatened her, and posted things about her on other websites. Here is her story.

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Single During the Holidays? How to Stay Merry

Single During the Holidays? How to Stay Merry

If you’re newly single, or just single in general, the holiday season may seem like a constant reminder that you’re not in a relationship.

However, the happy couples around you who are exchanging gifts and getting engaged don’t have to bring you down! Whether or not you are in a romantic relationship there is plenty to be thankful for and enjoy during the holidays. Here are some tips to enjoying the holiday season without a significant other.

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Emotional Health: 5 Tips for Staying Sane During the Holidays

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Are the holidays driving you nuts? Learn how to keep it together and enjoy time with your loved ones.

The holidays can be a stressful season. As you work to make time to see everyone, afford gifts in tough financial times, and get along with relatives who may not be super supportive or positive, anxiety will begin to soar. If you let the stress get to you it’s easy to find yourself in a depression or at a breaking point! Here are five tips for staying sane during the holidays.

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Relationship Problems and Social Media: Dos and Don’ts

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Just like texting, social media can help us stay connected -- if we use it right.

However, if you overshare on Facebook or Twitter, or change your relationship status out of spite, social media can just as quickly become a pain point for a relationship. Always think twice before you go spilling personal things about your relationship to a broad audience; some things are better left between you and your partner.

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Holiday Advice: How to Handle a Scrooge

Holiday Advice: How to Handle a Scrooge

Don't let a Debbie Downer take away your holiday fun. You have the right to enjoy this season even if a Scrooge shows up!

The holidays are time for get-togethers, enjoying family and friends, laughing, and exchanging gifts. But some families aren't that lucky...and they get stuck with a Scrooge. It can be exhausting to be around pessimistic comments, hearing negative views of the holidays, or being told about what isn't just right. These ongoing negative comments can rub off and bring you down if you let them.

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Holiday Advice: How to Survive Holiday Stress as a Couple

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Do your in-laws drive you crazy? Are your partner's traditions totally different than yours? Here's how to keep it together during the holiday season.

Holiday stress can sneak up on you if you're not paying attention. On top of regular issues interpersonal stressors put on any type of relationship (be it straight, gay, familial, romantic, or friendly), the holidays can apply additional pressure. Gift-giving, decorating, party planning, and vacation arrangements are just some of the stressors that might pop up. During the eventful months leading up to the new year, many relationships under this kind of adversity will be put to the test.

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3 Ways to Keep Social Media Posts from Causing a Break Up


If you click Send too soon, you might end up causing drama. Here's how thinking before you post can save your relationship.

We all have the basic human need of community support. This used to mean just your neighborhood, school, and people you interact with in person. However, our society has evolved so that we develop new relationships online with just a few clicks of a button. We now have more people cheering us on, giving us positive comments, or promoting our ego online. But, online communication can also complicate your romantic relationships – how much is too much? It’s important to set boundaries and have a full understanding of how to protect your relationship while posting on the web. Social media and relationships can only go hand in hand if you communicate well.

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