Conflict – What’s Attachment Got to Do With It?

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As humans we are wired to be in bonding relationships with others throughout our lifetime. These are referred to as attachment bonds. You might be most familiar with this in regard to parent-child relationships, but they also occur in our other significant relationships (family, significant others, close friends). When our attachment needs are being threatened, separation distress occurs. This is when people typically get sucked into that negative cycle - the conflict.

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Threatening to Leave Damages Your Relationship

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Sometimes leaving during a fight allows you time to cool off and come back when level heads prevail. But threatening to leave as a way to get back at your partner is never a good idea! Especially when you just say “I’m sick of this, I’m leaving!” Are you leaving for 10 minutes? Are you breaking up with or divorcing your partner? Your partner may not know what you’re talking about, and it’s hurtful.

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Help! I Can’t Get My Partner to Communicate with Me!

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Have you ever had one of those periods in your relationship where it feels like you and your partner can’t communicate about anything without it turning into a fight?  Or maybe you’re finding it a struggle to get any meaningful response from your partner?  Or maybe you’re finding yourself getting irritated every time your partner talks to you? You are certainly not alone!

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Why Go To Therapy in San Diego

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The truth is, there are many reasons to go to therapy and no one reason is better or more worthy than another. Here are ten reasons that you might want to start seeing a therapist:

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Burnout – How to spot it and what to do next

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Burnout is becoming increasingly common, especially as we pass the year mark for COVID in California.

Burnout comes from prolonged and cumulative stress. Since COVID’s impact really made its mark on California (/the US/the world) there has been an abundance of stressors. These stressors include the virus itself, transitioning to working from home, going into work during a pandemic, social distancing, and increased interpersonal conflict - especially between those who live together. We are facing all these additional stressors, and all at once, without having the same self-care and de-stress outlets as before. 

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I’m Doubting My Relationship – Is this normal?

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Is it common to have second thoughts in a relationship? How can you tell if it's just a temporary doubt, or something more?

Relationships grow and change over time. It is normal to pause and question your relationship. Taking time to reflect on your relationship gives you the opportunity to examine your values and needs, and what you need in a relationship to get your needs met and live in alignment with your values.

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