Is the cost of counseling just not something you can afford right now? Or do you prefer to do some "self help" on your own before reaching out to a counselor? Or maybe you're looking for some added help for between sessions? Whatever the case, we've put together a list for your convenience to help you utilize therapy techniques and strengthen your relationship from your own home.
Relationship and communication books and workbooks are a great way to gain knowledge and work on your relationship from your own home, on your own time, and between sessions. You can learn skills and work on communication – such as to stop interrupting your wife, husband, or partner. You can educate yourself on the damage walking out during an argument can do, and how to stop this habit. There are workbooks and books for couples who fight, and couples who are looking to take the next step. There are books about love and life, getting the love you want, ending a relationship, and books on being a better partner.
If you are currently seeing a therapist, ask them for book recommendations for what is best suited for your needs. Here are our top picks for our low cost couples therapy resources and books:
old Me Tight
This is my favorite book to recommend to my clients that are doing relationship counseling. Hold Me Tight goes hand and hand with how I work and the approach of therapy I use in my counseling office. If you have started couples counseling with me (or plan on it), get ahead and purchase the book. It has 7 conversations for couples, with activities and exercises.
Cost: $13.26 By Susan Johnson, Ed.D
(Along with Dr. Les Greenberg, Dr. Johnson developed emotionally focused couples and family therapy (EFT))
An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples
This book will work best for couples who are receiving or have received treatment in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). If you have done couples therapy with a member of our team, it is likely you have experienced EFT. This workbook is for couples who want to enhance their emotional connection or overcome their relationship distress.
Cost $17.98 to rent or $46.95 to purchase By Veronica Kallos-Lilly, PhD, and Jennifer Fitzgerald, PhD
The Marriage Refresher Course Workbook for Couples provides an opportunity for you and your spouse to benefit from learning the basics of strong, connected marriages – which you can implement together no matter how long you’ve already been married!The Marriage Refresher Course Workbook for Couples provides an opportunity for you and your spouse to benefit from learning the basics of strong, connected marriages – which you can implement together!
Cost: $20.00 By Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
The Premarital Counseling Workbook for Couples
The Premarital Counseling Workbook for Couples provides a framework for you to strengthen your relationship foundation prior to marriage. Its’ interactive format with exercises, worksheets and a space for couples journaling makes it a great keepsake for you and your fiance – to remind you of what you worked on in preparation for your marriage.
Cost: $20.00 By Lisa Bookes Kift, MFT
What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
Research psychologist and couples counselor Dr. John Gottman discusses love and what it takes to develop a trustful, intimate, and emotionally fulfilling bond. Learn how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate a fraying relationship. Gottman provides strategies for repairing what may seem lost or broken.
Cost $12.89 by John Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
This book teaches you new approaches for resolving conflict, finding new connection, improving communication, and improving intimacy. Dr. John Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. This book also includes exercises for you to do as you go.
Cost $10.79 by John Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver
Loving Like You Mean It: Use the power of emotional mindfulness to transform your relationships
We are all capable of deep, loving connection, but we can still struggle to make our relationships work and love like we mean it. This book combines neuroscience and attachment theory to provide a four-step approach to use emotional mindfulness to change old habits, be present in your emotion, and develop new ways of relating.
Cost $12.19 by Ronald J. Frederick, PhD
Attached: The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find – and KEEP – love
In this book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle. There is a power that comes from awareness and understanding, and with understanding adult attachment it can help us find and sustain love.
Cost $12.75 by Amir Levine, MD, and Rachel S.F. Heller, MA
Passion, Sex & Intimacy: Keep the fires of passion burning
Too many couples end up settling for a passionless, emotionally distant relationship. But you and your partner don’t have to settle. Discover the tools needed to help you ramp up your sex life, deepen intimacy and maintain a passionate relationship over the long haul. Dr. Nicastro’s Sex, Passion and Intimacy e-workbook is your easy-to-use blueprint to recapturing and protecting this vital part of your relationship.
Cost: $8.95 By Dr. Nicastro