There is research that ranks divorce as one of the most stressful life events, second only to loosing a long term spouse or life partner to death. (Dohrenwend et al., 1978; Holmes and Rahe, 1967; Gahler, 2006).
The end of a relationship can feel like the end of life as you knew it. It is common to experience a sense of chaos, a lack of control over your own path. There are different circumstances that will impact how you experience divorce; the length of the marriage, whether there are children from the relationship, the reason for the relationship ending, if you are the one who is making the decision to end it, whether it was unexpected or the divorce is coming after many years of the couple experiencing ongoing struggles in the relationship.However, everyone will experience a grieving process after the end of a long term relationship, even the person who is choosing to leave the marriage.
17 Examples of the Worst Relationship Advice We've Heard
We all like to give and get advice. We read it in magazines and articles online, we hear it on tv and from friends and family. Sometimes, the advice is not good, and can actually be harmful to a relationship or an individual. We put together a list of the 17 worst pieces of relationship advice we've heard, and an explanation to why each piece is not true.
Social Media and Break Ups
In this day and age, not only do we have the possibility of running into our ex's when we're out and about, but the ever-present social media makes checking up on them a constant option. You're killing time waiting in line or unwinding after work and the thought of "what is he/she up to" creeps into your head, and finding out is just one click away.
If you’re newly single, or just single in general, the holiday season may seem like a constant reminder that you’re not in a relationship.
However, the happy couples around you who are exchanging gifts and getting engaged don’t have to bring you down! Whether or not you are in a romantic relationship there is plenty to be thankful for and enjoy during the holidays. Here are some tips to enjoying the holiday season without a significant other.
Do you know a lot of the bartenders, bouncers, and regulars when you go out in Hillcrest? Are the endless nights of socializing, hook-ups, drinking, partying, and whatever else comes your way a regular occurrence in your life? Or better yet, have you mastered the party scene in Hillcrest and know exactly how to find the next hotspot of the night?
Partying can be a blast, especially in a community where you know a lot of people. But let's be real....sometimes partying can simply get way out of hand. Don't get me wrong, I like to have a good time and go out on the town....but I have also seen how partying can damage various aspects of relationships and life. The gay and gay-friendly community is large in San Diego, yet it can also be very small at the same time.
Why it's better to be happily ever single than in a mediocre relationship.
Sometimes when a relationship ends, or you haven’t been in a relationship for a while, you might start to feel down or as if being single is the worst thing in the world. Or, you might stay in a relationship that is less than stellar because you’re afraid of being alone. In reality, it’s better to be single, strong, and happy than be in a mediocre relationship just so you have the validation of being a part of a couple. There are several positives to being single instead of staying in a bad relationship.
Don't hide yourself.
I love relationship quotes about love and I try to share them through my online social media accounts, such as twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest. This weekend I came across this photo (below) on Facebook and I absolutely loved the relationship quote. It has such a great message.
You have ONE first date that either opens or shuts the door for a second date.
Have you have been out of the dating world and preparing to take the leap to start? Or do you have a streak of bad dates and can’t seem to score a second date? You men must enter smart into the scene.
In Memory of Enika Gartner.
Losing a loved one to cancer can be very traumatic and the healing process is different for everyone. Below is a story about how one woman’s healing process is to give back, to take action and raise money. She is putting on a benefit to raise money for the Breast Cancer Walk in honor of her good friend who died from breast cancer. Below is her story.
By Tiana Del Rio
Don't let this February day get you down
It's that time of year where San Diego stores are filled with red balloons, lover's hearts, and romantic items for the committed relationships. For some people, this special February day can be exciting and romantic, and for others it can be torture. This time of year can hit deep and be another reminder of your relationship status....single. It doesn't have to be that way....you can survive Valentine's Day and avoid the pain.