Five Tips to Strengthen Your Marriage Today

Marriage is a beautiful and fulfilling experience, but it has challenges. At times, even the happiest of marriages can experience turbulence. However, the good news is that with the right tools and strategies, couples can work through their difficulties and emerge stronger and more resilient.

This blog post will discuss five ways to strengthen your marriage today. These tips are based on years of research and experience working with couples. We encourage you to try these strategies in your marriage and see their positive impact.

Communicate Effectively

Effective communication is one of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage. However, it is also one of the most challenging. Communication involves not just talking but also listening and understanding. Often, couples may feel like they are talking to a wall, or that their partner is not listening. This can lead to frustration, resentment, and misunderstandings.

To communicate effectively, it is important to practice active listening. This means giving your partner your full attention, putting aside distractions, and listening without interrupting. It also involves using “I” statements instead of “you” statements, which can come across as accusatory. For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” try saying, “I feel like I’m not being heard.” This approach focuses on your feelings rather than blaming your partner.

Show Appreciation

It is easy to take our partners for granted, especially when we’ve been together for a long time. However, expressing gratitude and appreciation can go a long way in strengthening your marriage. It shows your partner that you see and value their efforts, and that you don’t take them for granted.

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Try making a habit of expressing appreciation on a daily basis. This can be as simple as saying “thank you” when your partner does something for you, or writing a note expressing your gratitude. You can also make a list of things you appreciate about your partner and share it with them. These small gestures can make a big difference in how connected and appreciated your partner feels.

Practice Forgiveness

In any marriage, there will be times when one or both partners make mistakes. These can range from minor misunderstandings to major breaches of trust. It can be tempting to hold onto anger and resentment when this happens, but this can be toxic to a relationship.

Practicing forgiveness is key to moving past difficult times and strengthening your marriage. This involves letting go of grudges and focusing on the present and future rather than dwelling on the past. It also involves acknowledging your own mistakes and taking responsibility for them.

Forgiveness is not always easy, and it can take time. It may involve seeking the help of a therapist or counselor to work through difficult emotions. However, the benefits of forgiveness are well worth the effort, as it can lead to greater intimacy, trust, and connection.

Make Time for Each Other

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it can be easy to neglect your relationship. However, it is important to make time for each other regularly. This can involve scheduling date nights, taking walks together, or simply spending time talking and connecting.

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Making time for each other sends the message that your relationship is a priority. It also provides an opportunity to deepen your connection and intimacy. Even if your schedules are busy, try to carve out some dedicated time each week to focus on your relationship.

Seek Professional Help

Finally, if you are struggling with your marriage, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Marriage counseling can provide a safe and supportive environment to work through difficulties and strengthen your relationship.

A therapist or counselor can help you identify and address underlying issues, improve communication, develop healthier patterns of interaction, and build stronger emotional connections. They can also teach you valuable skills and tools for managing conflict, improving intimacy, and enhancing your overall relationship satisfaction.

Marriage counseling is not a sign of weakness but rather a proactive step towards building a stronger, healthier, and happier marriage. It can be especially helpful for couples who are experiencing significant challenges, such as infidelity, communication breakdowns, or unresolved conflicts.

At Estes Therapy, we specialize in helping couples build strong and lasting marriages. Our experienced therapists can provide the guidance and support you need to overcome challenges and create a happier and more fulfilling relationship. We offer a range of counseling services, including couples therapy, individual therapy, pre-marital counseling, and counseling for mental illnesses such as anxiety and depression. We also specialize in LGBTQIA marriage and relationship counseling.

Our priority is to help you have a long, happy, and healthy relationship! 


In conclusion, there are many ways to strengthen your marriage today. Effective communication, showing appreciation, practicing forgiveness, making time for each other, and seeking professional help are all important strategies for building a healthy and happy relationship. Remember, a strong and fulfilling marriage requires ongoing effort and commitment from both partners. With the right tools and strategies, you can overcome challenges and create a relationship that lasts a lifetime.

If you want to learn more about our marriage counseling services at Estes Therapy, please don’t hesitate to contact us. We are here to support you on your journey toward a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.

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I earned my Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family psychotherapy in 2004 and I am currently licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist MFT (LMFT#47653) with the Board of Behavioral Sciences (BBS).

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