COUNSELING ISN’T “ONE SIZE FITS ALL,” AND EVERY THERAPIST MAY NOT BE A GOOD FIT FOR YOU.
Searching for the best marriage counselor in San Diego is a very important part of your counseling process – before you can begin to make progress you need to find the right therapist. I believe you should find a therapist that will best fit your needs and your particular situation.
Pay Attention to Specific Training.
When you’re looking for the best marriage counselor in San Diego, pay attention to background and training. For example — if you are looking for a therapist that deals with eating disorders and the impact they can have on relationships, make sure the counselor you choose has extensive training in eating disorders.
Learn About Theoretical Orientation.
Did you know there are many different styles of counseling, different “shools of thought,” and different techniques? Believe it or not, there are many styles and theoretical orientations used in counseling. Some theories are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Bowenian Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Psychodynamic, and Narrative. Get educated on the different theories, because one might be a better match for your situation. Many people I talk to in both my personal and professional life state that they never knew there were different styles and techniques and theories. Does the style of the counselor fit with your personality? This is very important!
Don’t take the “one size fits all” approach and search for the cheapest therapist in San Diego. Your marriage may be hanging on by a thread or severely hurt by a significant event. Time is of the essence and you should find a therapist that can really handle your situation. Find the BEST marriage counselor, not the cheapest. Remember, one size does not fit all and “affordable” or “low cost” doesn’t equal a good fit. Invest in your marriage, and it will save you a lot of money and heartache from having to go through a variety of counselors, or, at worst, a divorce.
Talk to the Counselor.
Research shows that progress in counseling is usually impacted by the therapist-client relationship. Sometimes a photo and website just isn’t enough to feel confident that you are making a good decision. Make sure you feel 100% comfortable with the therapist by picking up the phone and contacting him or her. Spend time over the phone getting a sense for that therapist. You should feel comfortable with your decision of a counselor before you even walk into the office.
Take a peek around your potential therapist’s online website and get a good feel for that therapist. Simply because someone shows up on the first page of Google for marriage counseling in San Diego doesn’t mean that person is the best fit for you. A counselor should have a lot of information on her website that shows she is knowledgeable and well trained in the specific area of your relationship needs, which will also help you narrow down your search.
Be open minded
Don’t forget, walking into a counseling office is very difficult and may stir up a bit of emotion for you. Look past your own anxiety and be open minded to what the therapist has to offer. Sometimes going in to counseling requires you to do some soul searching and take responsibility for your actions. San Diego has hundreds of great marriage counselors, so you get to take your time and find the best one that fits your specific needs.
HERE IS A LITTLE ABOUT JENNINE:
I am active in the counseling sessions and I try to get to the core of issues; I don’t want to just put a Band Aid on the situation. I work from an Emotionally Focused Therapy approach that emphasizes creating secure attachments in the relationship and improving the communication styles. My main focus is on relationships; from singlehood to newlyweds, from long term marital struggles to recently divorced individuals. Relationships impact us no matter what stage of life we are in, and I want to help you along the way.
Please take a tour of my website, read about how I became a therapist, review my relationship articles, check out my Relationships in the Raw website, and learn more about how I work as a counselor. I provide as much information about my services and my therapeutic approach on my website to help you determine if I would be a fit for your needs.
About Jennine Estes, MFT
Think of me as your relationship consultant, I'm your neutral third party that can help you untangle the emotions and help you figure out what's really going on. I am a Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA. Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples. Supervisor. I write relationship and self growth advice for my column Relationships in the Raw. Creator of #BeingLOVEDIs campaign. MFC#47653