There is research that ranks divorce as one of the most stressful life events, second only to loosing a long term spouse or life partner to death. (Dohrenwend et al., 1978; Holmes and Rahe, 1967; Gahler, 2006).
The end of a relationship can feel like the end of life as you knew it. It is common to experience a sense of chaos, a lack of control over your own path. There are different circumstances that will impact how you experience divorce; the length of the marriage, whether there are children from the relationship, the reason for the relationship ending, if you are the one who is making the decision to end it, whether it was unexpected or the divorce is coming after many years of the couple experiencing ongoing struggles in the relationship.However, everyone will experience a grieving process after the end of a long term relationship, even the person who is choosing to leave the marriage.
Going through the grieving process
Everyone will experience grief of some sort at some point in life. After all, to love is to experience loss at some point. However, most people don't have a clear understanding of what grief is about. In my work, as I help people during these painful process I often hear questions about what “healthy” grieving should look like, what is normal for them to feel, how long is it ok for someone to continue experiencing symptoms of grief.
Helping Your Loved One Through Loss
The loss of a child is a trauma that no one should have to go through. This loss is uniquely experienced after a miscarriage when a mama was not able to meet her baby earthside at all or for very long. As an outsider to the pregnancy, you may find it difficult to know how to react. Whether or not the pregnancy "felt" like a baby to you, it probably did to your friend. With that in mind, let's look at a how to support someone through miscarriage.
There comes a time in everyone’s life where you go through a hard time. Whether you lose your job, go through a bad breakup, or experience a death in the family – it’s normal to feel down sometimes. When feeling bad becomes chronic, however, it might be something more than just a bad day. It could be depression. Depression is nothing to be ashamed of: it might be the result of physiological issues or it could stem from an event. Whatever the cause, it’s important to spot the signs of depression in yourself and others and get help. Things CAN get better.
You can beat your depression - It just might take a little bit of work.
Tis’ the season to be jolly….except no matter how hard you tried, you couldn’t seem to get cheerful. You made it through the holidays, but your depression still hasn’t gone away. You might also feel even more tired, lonely, and hopeless than you did during the holiday season. Feeling depressed after the holidays can hang on way too long.