How can we rekindle our romance in a long term relationship?
Most couples often feel a sense of absolute happiness, love, connection, and excitement at the beginning of a relationship. You may look back on your wedding day and remember feeling that the bond between you and your beloved seemed so tight that nothing could pull it apart … but, eventually you may have learned otherwise. What happened to that bond after many years of routine and added responsibilities such as children, work, bills, cleaning, health, and all of life’s other little obstacles?
Communication is absolutely essential
...yet it seems to be the most difficult part of relationships. Couples frequently come into my office saying they want “healthier communication.” But what does that really mean? All of these high-functioning, business-oriented, goal-driven couples communicate with one another by expressing how they feel and discussing ongoing issues. They regurgitate their problems over and over, reshape the way they say things, shift their perspective, and constantly try various ways to explain their side. So why isn't it working?
Love isn't the only thing a relationship needs to stay alive. It needs attention, emotional security, and effective communication. Without all of these factors, you may lose the closeness and trust with your partner that is essential to your success.