Posts Categorized: Communication

Maintaining Connection During Social Distancing

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Staying safe and staying connected.

Social distancing really means physical distancing, but staying connected virtually. Without staying connected, we are really isolating ourselves. Isolation increases the risk of a variety of health problems (heart disease, dementia, depression) and leaves us feeling hopeless and alone as we try to make our way through the uncertainty and constant changes. 

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Are Your Tech Habits Taking Over?

Are Your Tech Habits Taking Over?

How to combat tech habits from taking over your well-being

We live in a time where the world is at our fingertips thanks to smartphones, tablets, and wifi available everywhere. There are, of course, benefits to this, but often it can feel like technology is taking over our lives or our loved ones. Have you ever been to dinner with a friend who can't seem to put down their phone? Or picked up your phone and next thing you know an hour as gone by? Has your device usage left you feeling down?

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5 Steps to Communicating Needs In Your Relationship

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Asking for what you want: 5 steps to getting your needs met

We all have needs, but sometimes it can be difficult to convey these needs to our partners. We might struggle with how to communicate our needs or approach our partners. Our partners might misunderstand what we are asking for. Or we might simply fear what happens if our partners refuse to meet our needs.

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Don’t Be Afraid to Fight

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There are right ways and wrong ways to fight.

Often people worry that if they are fighting in their relationship that that means they do not belong together. But the truth is that fighting can actually help your relationship become healthier – if you do it right. Arguments, especially in the beginning of your relationship, help to define where the lines are. However, it is important to know what you are fighting about, to be clear about what is upsetting you, and to say what you really mean. Sometimes this is easier said than done.

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7 Tips for Successful Communication About Sex

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Communication about sex can be vulnerable

The truth is, communicating openly about sex can be a vulnerable- and sometimes tough- thing to do. For some, knowing where to start with these conversations can feel confusing and overwhelming. Sex and intimacy is such an important part of our identities and our relationships. It is crucial to be able to practice sitting in the vulnerability and have these open conversations with your partner.

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My Child Came Out To Me

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Are you unsure how to react to your child coming out to you?

I have had parents ask me this a few times now, so I thought it’s time to share some quick and easy guidelines about how to handle your child’s coming out. What is most important is your relationship with your child. How you react to something that they hold fear or uncertainty around can greatly influence that relationship. You might be nervous about how to handle this for fear of pushing your child away. They have entrusted you with a part of their identity that they may hold anxiety or fear around. They are looking for you to be a safe space, to continue to accept and love them, and to not treat them any differently.

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Four Divorce Predictions and Their Antidotes

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After over 40 years of research, Dr. John Gottman has seen four main predictors of divorce and unhappy relationships.

Divorce or separation doesn’t come without warning. You or your partner isn’t going to go to sleep completely happy with your relationship and then wake up the next morning and think “never mind” for no reason. So what should you be looking out for? Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.

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