Posts Categorized: Break Ups

Grief of Divorce: Steps to Cope and Overcome it

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There is research  that ranks divorce as one of the most stressful life events, second only to loosing a long term spouse or life partner to death. (Dohrenwend et al., 1978; Holmes and Rahe, 1967; Gahler, 2006).

The end of a relationship can feel like the end of life as you knew it. It is common to experience a sense of chaos, a lack of control over your own path. There are different circumstances that will impact how you experience divorce; the length of the marriage, whether there are children from the relationship, the reason for the relationship ending, if you are the one who is making the decision to end it, whether it was unexpected or the divorce is coming after many years of the couple experiencing ongoing struggles in the relationship.However, everyone will experience a grieving process after the end of a long term relationship, even the person who is choosing to leave the marriage.

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5 Steps To Stop Looking at Your Ex’s Social Media Account

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Social Media and Break Ups

In this day and age, not only do we have the possibility of running into our ex's when we're out and about, but the ever-present social media makes checking up on them a constant option. You're killing time waiting in line or unwinding after work and the thought of "what is he/she up to" creeps into your head, and finding out is just one click away.

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How to Stop Sites Like Craigslist from Causing a Break-Up

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A lot of the couples I see in my office are having issues because of the internet. Or, maybe I should say the internet is bringing to light issues that exist in the relationship. Facebook, Twitter, San Diego Craigslist -- these are just some of the sites that get mentioned in my office. My advice is always to set boundaries and stick to them when it comes to online activity.

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5 Stages of a Breakup

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Breakups are painful and the end of a relationship is like a death. Major life shifts often leave us feeling out of control and grappling with ways to feel powerful as we redefine our lives. While a relationship may conclude on good or bad terms, every individual will reach closure in their own way.

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Breakups: Is Social Media Making it Hard to Move On?

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You're not alone, at least according to one study.

When you're happy in your relationship, posting about it on social media seems only natural. Uploading pictures, adding your anniversary to your profile, and tagging each other on a regular basis is very common. One professor at UCSC calls these things "digital possessions." So what do you do with your virtual scrapbook when the relationship ends? Social media and break ups aren't a great combination. Looking at old social media posts and content can make it very hard to move forward in your new life. Here are some tips for how to begin to get over a break up even if you have social media connections.

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Breaking Up is Hard to Do — With Friends, Too.

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Why a friendship break up can be hard and how to move on

When you enter into romantic relationships, on some level you know that it may work out -- or it may not. This person could be with you for the long haul, or perhaps you'll grow apart and figure out he's not "the one." We don't place the same expectation with platonic girlfriends, however. If you have a BFF, you think that she'll be with you through it all -- failed romances, lost jobs, and even across geographical distances. You don't think to ask "will long distance work?" like you do with a boyfriend. So, when a friendship break up happens, it can be devastating.

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Women: Do You Say “Go” When You Really Mean “Stay”?

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Stop! Don't push him out the door when you should be fighting for the relationship

Do you push your partner away when you're in trouble? Sometimes when one partner is in pain, he or she will tell the other person to leave. Especially if your partner is the threatening to leave, your hurt feelings may cause you to react by saying, "Fine, just go!" You might mean that you want them to leave for the night or forever. In reality, many times when this happens you actually want your partner to stay and fight for the relationship -- you don't want them to go at all!

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