Step right up, modern love warriors! Planning a blended family wedding? Buckle up because we’re diving into the heartwarming chaos that is the merging of two families. Now, we all know that blending families comes with its fair share of challenges, especially when it comes to orchestrating the grand spectacle of a wedding. But fear not, because we’ve got the ultimate guide to navigate the tumultuous waters of your kids’ potential emotional rollercoaster. Get ready to sprinkle some magic on those family dynamics and turn your blended family wedding into a harmonious celebration of love. It’s not just about saying ‘I do’—it’s about saying ‘we do’ to create a bond that can withstand even the most adorable meltdowns. Let the blending begin! 🌈💕
Here are some things you can do to prevent a meltdown, or manage the drama if it happens.
- Take Preventative Steps: Instead of having an intervention for the “what if’s,” take the preventative steps to have the children feel included and reassured. Children often do not have the words to describe the complexity of their emotions. Your new marriage may be threatening to their bond with you, so the more reassured they feel in the relationship the less likely it is that distressing emotions will arise the day of the wedding. For example, take the little ones out on a date alone, and have a ceremony between you and your children. Don’t just marry the man of your dreams, make a commitment to your children as well. The more they feel security in their relationship with you, the more comfortable they will feel with you showing love for someone else.
- Take a Few Moments and Give Reassurance: Even though you may want your wedding to be perfect, your kids must still come first. The wedding can be very confusing for your children, and if they don’t have the right words then tears are bound to spring up. If emotions do arise moments before the wedding starts, take a few moments to reassure your child, give them comfort, and acknowledge the difficulty of the situation for them. Offer a hug, and have family on standby to continue to comfort them during the wedding.
- Bring them Along: If all else fails, bring your children down the aisle with you. Sometimes children won’t calm down unless they are attached to mom at the hip. Keeping them away from you may only make matters worse, heightening their emotions and escalating the drama. Avoid expecting that picture perfect wedding that you see in magazines, and expect a family perfect wedding instead.