Involved in a committed relationship where a LARGE secret as now been exposed, shattering your heart, and having you examine the entire relationship.
Being in a relationship with someone who has an addiction is very hard, but it is even harder when it comes to sexual addiction. It tends to be this hidden away, secretive issue that no-one talks about.
Thousands of women suffer in San Diego alone, telling no-one, and they don’t have anyone to relate to when their partner is a sex addict. Other addictions can be more socially accepted and easier to talk about with friends, such as a drinking addiction or gambling addiction. But sexual addiction is complex. For a partner it can be so hard to even know where to begin seeking help, let alone knowing who to really open up and share with.
Here are a few resources that you can use for support groups. At these groups, you will meet other people who can relate to your situation, help you through the journey of mending your heart, and find tools to take back control. Whether you want to stay in the relationship or to leave it, your main priority should be YOU! You need to take care of yourself before you can make a sound decision about the future of your relationship. Here are some resources for partners of a sexual addict.
Recovering Couples Anonymous
Codependents of Sexual Addiction (COSA)
Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts, by Stefanie Carnes, Ph.D.
If you need someone to talk to in a safe space, you can also reach out to a professional therapist. Your concerns will be confidential and you can learn coping skills as well as build your self esteem and learn some relationship tips.
About Jennine Estes, MFT
Think of me as your relationship consultant, I'm your neutral third party that can help you untangle the emotions and help you figure out what's really going on. I am a Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA. Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples. Supervisor. I write relationship and self growth advice for my column Relationships in the Raw. Creator of #BeingLOVEDIs campaign. MFC#47653