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Rekindling the Romance: Easy Ways You can get Your Relationship Back on Track
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We all know the story. On your wedding day, you are absolutely in love with your soon to be spouse. Most couples often feel a sense of absolute happiness, love, connection, and excitement. You may not look back on your wedding day with those exact feelings… but the next part of this story may sound more familiar. The bond probably seemed so tight that nothing could pull it apart…but, you learned otherwise. What happened to that bond after many years of routine and added responsibility such as children, work, bills, cleaning, health, and all of life’s other little obstacles? Somewhere the relationship got moved to the “back burner” and just surviving day-to-day life became the central focus. While you were living the daily American routine of working too much and trying to cope with Life’s ongoing struggles, the romance that sparked the marriage began to diminish.
I am going to teach you what you already know; marriage doesn’t have to be routine, boring and dry. It may not be easy, and it may not always be fun. How you experience saving your relationship often depends on…. Yes, you guessed it…You. Hopefully you and your significant other are both trying to fix things, but right now, this is about You. The following quick tips will help You get the romance to spark again: Read More→
Going to Bed Angry: How it Just Might Help For Some Couples
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A commonly known advice for relationships is for couples to never go to bed angry. This idea has such a great value. It addresses the idea of how couples may feel if going to bed angry, such as feeling emotionally disconnected and unattached, or fear of having unresolved issues getting in the way. This advice is absolutely a great and valuable tool for staying connected and securely attached to your partner. Think about it…going to bed angry in the relationship can create a terrible feeling; it can keep people up all night, have terrible sleep, or many other painful experiences. For many couples, this advice is perfect for their relationship. Obviously, I am a therapist and I truly believe in resolving any and all conflicts before leaving or going to sleep, but this doesn’t work for everyone. Read More→
Money Stress and Marriage: How to Keep STRONG During a Recession
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Many people are worrying about finances and are facing economic struggles. Quite frequently when finances drop, so does the relationship satisfaction. Don’t be part of that. If your bank account is dwindling, it is more important than ever to keep your relationship strong.
Here are ways on how to ieep your relationship strong while your finances are in stress: Read More→
Bedroom Messages: What message do you want to send?
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This photo says it all. What messages do you send to your partner in the bed? Do you send the message that you are open for intimacy? Do you show that you care?
Take a look at what non-verbal messages you send to your partner. Think about how they might respond. Read More→
Single and Ready To Date?: Tips on How to Help Get a Relationship
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If you find yourself in a pattern of unsuccessful relationships, then you may have a familiar relationship dynamic pattern that is not working. Sometimes this is “unconscious” and causes us to act out behavior that we are not aware of. Below are tips on how to make a positive, lasting impression on new people in the dating world: Read More→
Healthy Communication in Relationships: What does that mean?
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Couples frequently come in to my office saying that they want “healthier communication.” But what does that really mean?
All of these high functioning, business oriented, goal driven couples communicate to one another; they talk, express how they feel, and continue to discuss ongoing issues. They regurgitate the problem over and over, they reshape the way they say things, they shift their perspective, and they constantly try various ways to explain their side. Communication is exactly what they do, but the bigger question is what do they accomplish? Learning how to communicate is too broad of an issue….healthy communication is about narrowing in, taking a deeper look at the interactions within each partner, and understand how the couple interact together. Read More→
Simple Relationship Advice: Helping couples stay Connected
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Just a few words of advice….
Love isn’t the only thing a relationship needs to stay alive. It needs attention, emotional security, and effective communication. Read More→
Relationship Advice: Body Language Speaks Louder than Words
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Have you ever wondered why your partner keeps hearing something totally different from what you are saying? The message you are sending may be very different from your words. In his book Silent Messages, Dr. Albert Mehrabian says that the majority of communication is through body language and tone of voice, not what is said. He calls it the “7%-38%-55% Rule.” Fifty-five percent of other people’s reactions to you are based on your facial expression, 38% based on your tone of voice, and only 7%of their reaction is from the words you are actually saying. While we usually know what we are saying, often we do not know what other messages we are sending through body language. Want to find out? Read More→
Recognizeing Unwanted Behaviors: How our childhood experience effects our adult life
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During the holidays, I was sitting with my 3 year old nephew on my lap reading him a book. After reading the story, he proceeded to get off my lap, grab another book, and sat across from me. He rapidly flipped through the pages mumbling phrases and words as if he was reading the book, and as if he were a teacher, turning the book around to show the pages. While watching him present each page, I began to think about how frequent he watches a teacher sit in front of the class, read a page, and then share the picture pages with the class. My guess is he sees his teacher read one to two times a day, 5 times a week, for the past 8 months.
If we take my nephew as an example, he just watched and absorbed the teacher’s behavior that he has watched for only 8 months. Now, take your own experiences as children. We watch our parents when they get upset, feel anger or sadness, and communicate with others. We learned from watching our parental figures daily, for many hours a day, and for 7 days a week. We absorb behaviors similar to our parent’s behaviors. We watched them express anger, communicate, cope with stress, and more. The things we saw as children influence our reactions in our current relationship. Similarly to my nephew, we replicate behaviors that we watched growing up. Read More→
Infidelity Advice: How to trust after the affair
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Rebuilding trust can be extremely difficult, especially for the deceived partner.
Rebuilding trust requires the involvement of both participants in the relationship.
Initially, the person who shattered the trust will need to work hard to build the trust back. Showing remorse, being consistent, and understanding their partner’s pain are all very important in building trust. The unfaithful participant will need to teach their partner that they can be a trustworthy and an emotionally safe person.
The partner who was deceived, on the other hand, will also need to do some work to build the trust. These simple steps will help this participant to begin rebuilding the shattered foundation of the relationship. Don’t just shove this all under the rug and pretend nothing happened. Here are a few tips on how to take steps on learning how to trust your partner again after the affair: Read More→
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