Archive for Counseling
Advice for Affairs: Quick Tips to Build Trust after infidelity
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It may have all started with a flirt, a simple flirt. This harmless friendship crossed the line; flirtatious text messages, anticipation for the next contact, or simply a shoulder to cry on when things weren’t going right in your relationship. The friendship started off innocent, but after one too many drinks, you two ended up hooking up. This “one time mistake” or “long term affair” was hidden, pushed aside, or buried under lies because you knew you were wrong and didn’t want to lose your partner. As you attempt to keep your relationship connected with your partner, reality hit full speed ahead and your partner found out.
Rebuilding the trust and facing the consequences of your actions may feel never-ending. Hang tight, it doesn’t have to be like this forever. Keep in mind that it will be like this for now. Simply because the relationship is in a tragic storm, it doesn’t mean that it won’t make it through to sunlight again. Read More→
Does Counseling Work?: How therapy be helpful for relationships
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Many people step in to the therapy questioning if therapy will be helpful. My rule of thumb…you won’t know until you give it a fair shot.
I feel as if the therapy is an extremely effective tool with helping clients get through various struggles. As a therapist, I am not stuck in the middle of the storm feeling every emotion and being reactive. I get the chance to see the whole picture, without being activated or biased.
Some of the many issues that being people in to therapy is for jealousy, infidelity, anger, addiction, anxiety, etc. These issues are merely a symptom of a larger problem. Counseling helps uncover the underlying issue, and find new ways to cope. Most people grow up learning to use one or two “coping techniques,” such as bottling up the emotion, or putting on the “smiling mask” and pretend everything is okay. These coping behaviors are extremely helpful in our early years; however, in relationships, the coping techniques are less effective. Read More→
conflicting couples, affairs, communication struggles, etc.
