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Sometimes you might find yourself in a relationship that is not totally healthy anymore, or where you’re no longer happy. Instead of taking the necessary steps to begin to leave your relationship, you stick around and just hope things will be better. When you’re stuck in a rut and your partner isn’t really trying to work with you, you might just be in denial about what you need to do. On the other hand, if you do still have strong feelings for your partner and hope that things could improve, it might just be time to step up and fight for your relationship. How do you know if you should stay and fight or if you’re just in denial about leaving and afraid to admit the truth?
We all have emotional baggage going into a relationship – after all, you haven’t been living in a bubble until you met your partner. You had a childhood, friendships, and you’ve probably had other romantic relationships…maybe even serious ones. You may also have experienced some trauma that really impacts the way you think or interact with others. Your baggage can get heavy when you carry it alone, so it helps to share the load with your partner. On the other hand, you don’t want to disclose your entire past to someone on the very first date. So, when do you start to unpack your baggage in a relationship and how do you get help?
Don’t let a Debbie Downer take away your holiday fun. You have the right to enjoy this season even if a Scrooge shows up!
The holidays are time for family get-togethers, enjoying family and friends, laughing, and exchanging gifts. But some families aren’t that lucky…and they get stuck with a Scrooge. It can be exhausting to be around pessimistic comments, hearing negative views of the holidays, or being told about what isn’t just right. These ongoing negative comments can rub off and bring you down if you let them.
Don’t get stuck in that holiday slump! Here are a few tips to survive the holiday: Read More→
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Technology makes it easier to stay connected with each other, but it can also ironically pull us apart if we let texting take over our lives. At the end of the day, always think twice before you send a text message, and make a conscious effort to put your phone down sometimes when you’re with your partner!
If you’re in a relationship and develop feelings for someone else, you wind up in a world of confusion. What does it mean and when should you leave?
Question: I am in a relationship of 7 years and I have feelings for my friend. I text her all the time, I make excuses to see her, and I’d prefer to talk to her over my girlfriend. I keep putting myself in situations that I know aren’t right, but I just can’t seem to stop. I know she has feelings for me too. I love my girlfriend, but this has me so confused. What do I do?
Answer: First things first. Don’t’ take this issue lightly. Your heart has been touched and you can’t ignore that feeling. Pay attention to this feeling and be serious with the issue. Our hearts get touched for various reason and you need to figure out how yours got here to begin with. If a person is in a secure relationship, emotions don’t simply spark out of the blue. Yes, we may have crushes along the way, but when our emotions take over, this is a sign that there is more going on than meets the eye.
Don’t use digital communication as a substitution for real dates.
Yes, texting is easy. In just a few seconds, you can grab your phone, type a message and go on with your day. Texting, and your cell phone in general, also serve as a convenient distraction when you’re bored or in silence. People check their phones for messages when they’re in line at a store, during any down time at home, and even when they are with a loved one who they should be paying attention to. If you’re like many people, your phone probably goes everywhere with you! Texting in relationships can become a problem — many couples sit in bed with their phones at night, spending time browsing the Internet or texting friends instead of snuggling up with their partner. Even though this mode of communication is very easy, it shouldn’t replace other forms of communication altogether! Before you let your texting and mobile phone habit ruin your dating life or relationship, consider the following five things.
EFT teaches you how to identify underlying emotions
Emotionally Focused Therapy – often called simply EFT – is a form of therapy that strives to help couples identify the underlying emotions that are guiding their relationship. The EFT approach was first developed by Susan Johnson and Les Greenberg in the 1980s, and it continues to become one of the most popular and effective ways to improve relationships.
All humans are designed to turn towards each other in times of distress, but when a negative cycle emerges in a relationship, one partner may not be available to tend to the needs of the other. EFT aims to help couples figure out how to improve their communication cycle through the acknowledgement and communication of honest emotions.