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Q&A: My Boyfriend Writes to Other Girls on Facebook, What Should I Do?
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I discovered that my boyfriend is writing to other girls on Facebook and it really bothers me. He usually just asks how they’re doing and they never respond (probably because they can see he’s in a relationship). I knew he was doing this in the past, and then I discovered his Facebook password and I logged into his account even though I know I shouldn’t snoop. I found more emails to other girls! What should I do now?
Be Weird. Be You
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I love relationship quotes about love and I try to share them through my online social media accounts, such as twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest. This weekend I ran across this photo (on the left) on Facebook and I absolutely loved the relationship quote. It has such a great message.
“Be Weird. Be Random. Be Who You Are. Because You Never Know Who Would Love The Person You Hide.” – M. anonymous (well, I just can’t seem to make out the signed name).
I took a photo of the it, put a little of my own touch to it, and decided to post it on to my pinterest board. Posting it to the online site, I thought it would be something nice to share with my friends and followers. Later that evening I was surprised to find the pin had over 1,000 re-pins; it had gone viral! Up to date it has been re-pinned nearly 2,442 times (and it hasn’t even been 24 hours since I posted it). This got me to thinking about the message behind the pin… Read More→
An Infertility Story: Advice for Couples Who Struggle with Infertility
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I’m not a doctor, a therapist, nor an expert in infertility. I am simply a woman sharing my story about wanting a baby and the advice I have for couples who struggle with it as well.
I’ve always wanted to hear the pitter patter of little feet toddling through my home. Children can enrich life like nothing else. As a young girl I had the idea in my head that I would grow up, get married, have children and live happily ever after, simple as that. Well, it hasn’t been quite so simple. When my husband and I got married in our early thirties we didn’t take any precautions against pregnancy. We were happy to just let the chips fall how they may, but hoping a pregnancy would be sooner than later. After a while of trying with not really trying we began to track ovulation in an attempt to be more purposeful about trying to conceive. Read More→
Is my partner cheating on me?
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Do you get that feeling inside your body that “something just isn’t right” in the relationship? Or do you constantly have those annoying and intrusive thoughts run in your mind? “Is he/she cheating? Is there someone else?”
This horrific feeling of worry and mistrust can feel awful and even paralyzing. It can through off your complete mood for the day and make it challenging to focus on your daily tasks.
Let’s take a step back and look at what is going on beneath the surface….
Often in a relationship we find that in the beginning there is an overwhelming sense of connection, happiness, and fulfillment. But then something happens. A few “red flags” pop up, a moment or two of concern, which usually just get pushed aside because of the love and connection. Unfortunately the story doesn’t always end there. For some, and possibly in your case, later on down the road your partner’s stories’ don’t seem to match up or make sense, and a real sense of concern starts to set in.
For many in this situation the investigation then begins… Read More→
How to keep your Body Image from Hurting The Relationship
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Are you the type of person that stands in front of the mirror reviewing your body? Do you scrutinize every little detail that you hate on your body, such as your “hello kitty” arms, or your “used-to-be-so-flat-mommy-belly?” Do you find that know matter how many times you hear from your partner that he loves your body, or comments from others that you are tiny, it just doesn’t seem to be enough? Are you destroying your relationship because you are facing a struggle with your body? This body image can get in the way of dating and maintaining relationships.
Relationships tend to suffer severely when you become engulfed in your self image. The endless hours of exercise and self absorption can prevent you from connecting to your loved one. Read More→
Get your New Year’s Resolution to Stick!
Posted by: | CommentsMake your New Year’s Resolutions lasts!
Creating a New Year’s Resolutions is to help people improve life; such as losing weight, decreasing spending, improving health, creating stronger business, etc. A frequent problem is that people start off strong; working diligently day in and day out, and have it as an extreme focus. It lasts for a good few days or months, but quickly dwindles down to nothing. This is the “Yo-Yo Resolution;” starting from one extreme (all-in) to the other extreme (all-out). Read More→
Best 50 Relationship Tips of the Year
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I started this year out using my social networking as a place to share free relationship tips to others. For some people, twitter is a huge community and support network. For other people, it isn’t their cup of tea. As a business owner (and a therapist), I decided to create a place for support, providing relationship tips and tools on social networking sites. I thought it would be great to highlight some of my favorite quick tips.
Here are my BEST 50 posts of year 2010 I posted on Twitter.
- Don’t hibernate alone when feeling sad, bring a buddy into your cave to cuddle up with and stay warm.
- Your partner should be your “prince” or “princess”…nothing less. Treat them that way and find out how it helps the relationship!
- Trauma (loss, miscarriages, cancer, etc) can bring back old relationship pains and magnify the problems. Take action to heal the pains & bond.
- Any sentence with the word “BUT” attached will delete the first part of the sentence. “I like you, but…..” Just don’t use the word… Read More→
Turkey Trot: What are you thankful for?
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Thanksgiving is right around the corner, so I ask you…. What are you thankful for today?
All too often we tend to get caught up in our world of selfish and materialistic ways. The hustle and bustle of our daily routines become all encompassing, and leave very little time to stop and breath. But during this time of year, with the giving of thanks coming up on us, now more than ever is the time to truly be thankful. And maybe even give back.
Are you thankful for the roof over your head? For the fact that you are still gainfully employed in this weakened economy? For living in a country where we can still act how we want, say and do as we want, and be considered free? You see, you can walk on nearly any block in downtown San Diego where there are far too many people without homes or jobs. I wonder what they are thankful for….
Are you thankful for the love you have recently found? Or your children that give you life’s greatest pleasures? Or your family who is the rock of who you are today? When you sit down and really think about what makes you so thankful today, what comes to your mind? Read More→
Relationship Advice: What is an Emotional Affair?
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It all started with an innocent friendship, a simple flirty comment and WHAMO! Chemistry takes over and your internal world ignites on fire, you get excited, and your mind races a thousand miles a minute. Emotional affairs don’t include physical intimacy….it is basically all emotion.
Here are a few items that constitute an emotional affair: Read More→
$20 (or less) Date Night Tips: Recession-Proof your Marriage (Series 2)
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Every one (and I think I can say this as a blanket statement) is impacted in one way or another from the economic stress; businesses closing, loss of jobs, constant worry about job security, foreclosing the home, friends struggling, or simply the news telling you another bad thing. Anxiety may be higher than ever, but this doesn’t mean you have to stop connecting with your partner. In fact, this is the time to support one another through the stress and help alleviate the pain.
A few years back, my husband was in school and I was starting my therapy practice. We didn’t have much money at the time, yet we realized the importance of nurturing the relationship. We started a game called $20 Date Night where every Friday night we switched off with creating the date. The goal is to create a date with only spending $20 or less. To our surprise, we came up with many dates; it just took imagination and creativity. To this day, we continue or date night challenge… Read More→
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