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Social Networking Series: The Facebook-Addiction and how to take back control
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You may have experienced the feeling when you sit in front of your computer working and you see an email from Facebook staring at you. You think to yourself, “I will make a quick response and then get right back on track with work and be productive.” But next thing you know, you are readying the hilarious posts from friends, responding to interesting conversations, and saying hi to friends you haven’t seen for a while. As your “quick” peak evolves into a long-long time, the facebooking feels “addicting.” Does this sound familiar?
I search through a few of my own Facebook (FB) posts in regards to the “addicting” feeling. Here are a few of my random posts: “Why is it that when I have a thousand things on the ‘to-do’ list, I find myself lost on Facebook?!?!” Or my humor (yet also somewhat serious) about the addiction of Facebook: “I think I might start a new therapy group called “Facebook-aholics Anonymous.”
My random posts on Facebook had a bit of humor, yet it also spoke the truth. I can feel and see how easy it could be to get lost for hours and become out of control. I can moderate with social networking, but what about those who can’t redirect or limit themselves, or for those who have more addictive tendencies? Read More→
Free Valentine’s Day Ideas for Couples’s
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It is that time of year again where the stores get filled with Valentine’s decorations, red balloons, hearts, flowers, and lover’s cards. Some people get excited about this time of year, yet other people worry about the lack of funds to do something unique. Good news…you don’t have to spend money on loud restaurants filled with noise and strangers. You can create romance and enjoy your relationship without spending money.
Living Without a Label: A documentary on HIV/AIDs
Posted by: | CommentsSex Advice: How Sex Doesn’t Need to be a Chore
Posted by: | CommentsLadies….Sex Doesn’t Need to be a “chore!”
Countless women across the world feel as if sex is more like a job and less of a special bonding time. When sex feels like a requirement or an expectation, the desire to be intimate can quickly dwindle away. Not only can it feel like a job, the ongoing pressures and the mental “to-do” list over take the mind and become a prominent thought. Even further, woman experience sex as a hassle, avoids the topic at all cost, is self conscious of their body, and/or dislikes the sexual act itself. Does this sound familiar?
The physical bond of intimacy is the rawest form of feeling attached and connected for couples. But what happens to relationships when sex feels like a job? This job-like view of sex eliminates the special connection, it prevents women from enjoying the experience, and it builds distance between two people. Good news, sex doesn’t have to be a job, work, or a chore! Read More→
Good First Dates with People you “Know a Little”
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“People you know a little,” what does that mean exactly? I suppose these people fall somewhere between a blind date and that person you’ve been working with for the past 6 months. You know the type, maybe someone you met dancing, walking your dog in the park, or chatted-up at a bookstore. You’ve spent a little while getting to know each other but, more importantly, you’ve talked face-to-face and have picked up on all of those non-verbal cues that can mean so much, like mannerisms, eye contact, and facial gestures. You’d be amazed at how much more we learn about people from this non-verbal communication than what they’re actually saying, and just a little while together can make you quite a bit more comfortable spending time together. So who qualifies as a person “you know a little”? Read More→
Recovering from Rape: Surviving the “after-shock”
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Rape is more than simply a trauma; it is a life long ordeal with continual distress. The forced sex takes away control, forces extreme violation, causes physical pains, and creates severe emotional trauma. Recovering from such a traumatic incident can be challenging and life altering. Some people find themselves reaching out to others for support and comfort. Others may hold things in, shut down, numb-out, or even become self destructive. All of which are ways in which the body is saying, “I am hurting. I need to feel safe. I need to heal.” Read More→
Advice on How to Survive Valentine’s Day being Single
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It’s that time of year where San Diego stores are filled with red balloons, lover’s hearts, and romantic items for the committed relationships. For some people, this special February day can be exciting and romantic, and for others it can be torture. This time of year can hit deep and be another reminder of your relationship status….single. It doesn’t have to be that way….you can survive Valentine’s Day and avoid the pain.
Here are a few simple things you can do to survive the holiday and thrive being single: Read More→
Single and Ready To Date?: Tips on How to Help Get a Relationship
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If you find yourself in a pattern of unsuccessful relationships, then you may have a familiar relationship dynamic pattern that is not working. Sometimes this is “unconscious” and causes us to act out behavior that we are not aware of. Below are tips on how to make a positive, lasting impression on new people in the dating world: Read More→
Improve Self-Esteem: Building a more confident you
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Self-esteem and confidence is basically an overall opinion of you and can impact daily experiences. Our level of self-esteem virtually affects all areas of life; the type of people you attract, your career building, your relationships, and other important areas.
People with an unhealthy self-esteem can often send a vibe that other people can pick up on. Read More→
Advice to Stop Critical Thinking:Live Without Beating Yourself Up
Posted by: | CommentsSaying Good-Bye to Critical Thoughts
Summer’s on its way and for San Diego that means it’s a time for beaches, barbeques, and fun in the sun! Many of us find ourselves making healthy decisions like switching to water instead of drinking soda, exercising a couple more times a week, or resisting the urge to eat that second sliver of cake while others sometimes make unhealthy–potentially dangerous–choices in a rush effort to shed those lingering holiday pounds: skipping meals, crash dieting, or running on the treadmill until being on the verge of collapse. Body image is important to most everybody–a fact that is felt even more so in a city known for having beautiful people. Read More→
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