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What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) All About?
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EFT can help couples learn to listen to the root of each others' feelings.
Emotionally Focused Therapy – often called simply EFT – is a form of therapy that strives to help couples identify the underlying emotions that are guiding their relationship. The EFT approach was first developed by Susan Johnson and Les Greenberg in the 1980s, and it continues to become one of the most popular and effective ways to improve relationships. All humans are designed to turn towards each other in times of distress, but when a negative cycle emerges in a relationship, one partner may not be available to tend to the needs of the other. EFT aims to help couples figure out how to improve their communication cycle through the acknowledgement and communication of honest emotions. Read More→
Be Weird. Be You
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I love relationship quotes about love and I try to share them through my online social media accounts, such as twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest. This weekend I ran across this photo (on the left) on Facebook and I absolutely loved the relationship quote. It has such a great message.
“Be Weird. Be Random. Be Who You Are. Because You Never Know Who Would Love The Person You Hide.” – M. anonymous (well, I just can’t seem to make out the signed name).
I took a photo of the it, put a little of my own touch to it, and decided to post it on to my pinterest board. Posting it to the online site, I thought it would be something nice to share with my friends and followers. Later that evening I was surprised to find the pin had over 1,000 re-pins; it had gone viral! Up to date it has been re-pinned nearly 2,442 times (and it hasn’t even been 24 hours since I posted it). This got me to thinking about the message behind the pin… Read More→
Dating Advice For Men: The Dating Do’s and Don’ts
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You have ONE first date that either opens or shuts the door for a second date.
Have you have been out of the dating world and preparing to take the leap to start? Or do you have a streak of bad dates and can’t seem to score a second date? You men must enter smart into the scene.
You have ONE first date that either opens or shuts the door for a second date. This is the time to make a great impression. The potential to connect with someone and begin to get to know them can be thrilling and at the same time anxiety provoking. There are a few common sense things you can do to help insure a successful first date that leads to a second one. There are also things that you should avoid doing on a first date and some of them may not seem so obvious. Setting yourself up for a successful date takes some thought and a little effort. Read More→
Dating Advice: Secrets for attracting your dream guy
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Avoid Being A Fake You: Some women put on a fake image of who they are in fear that they will not be liked. Women can actually hurt their chances of attracting their dream guy when they put on this false image because it doesn’t come out as the authentic YOU. Most men can really pick up on the masked identity that a woman displays and it tells them the woman isn’t secure in their own skin. Men want women who are secure, confident, and can express themselves openly. Instead, be YOU.
Give Attention: All humans love attention from others and are attracted to people who give them attention. Plain and simple. Give men attention by asking questions and show interest in them. Make sure not to go over board and appear desperate. The worst thing you can do is freeze up and wait for them to stir up conversation. Read More→
Is my partner cheating on me?
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Do you get that feeling inside your body that “something just isn’t right” in the relationship? Or do you constantly have those annoying and intrusive thoughts run in your mind? “Is he/she cheating? Is there someone else?”
This horrific feeling of worry and mistrust can feel awful and even paralyzing. It can through off your complete mood for the day and make it challenging to focus on your daily tasks.
Let’s take a step back and look at what is going on beneath the surface….
Often in a relationship we find that in the beginning there is an overwhelming sense of connection, happiness, and fulfillment. But then something happens. A few “red flags” pop up, a moment or two of concern, which usually just get pushed aside because of the love and connection. Unfortunately the story doesn’t always end there. For some, and possibly in your case, later on down the road your partner’s stories’ don’t seem to match up or make sense, and a real sense of concern starts to set in.
For many in this situation the investigation then begins… Read More→
Are you newly single?: How to survive a break-up
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Have you recently entered the world of single-hood? This could be a scary, yet liberating, time of your life. Whether you are coming off of a long term relationship, or merely a few months relationship, breaking up is never easy. People tend to put their minds and hearts into a relationship and try everything they can to keep the relationship intact. When things get difficult the emotional pain and energy can be stressful and overwhelming. And even when you try to find some semblance of peace for you and your partner, unfortunately, not all relationships make it through and recover from the hard times.
For some, the breakup may have been something that was coming for awhile, and now that it’s happened, it’s not that much of a surprise. For others, they are left blindsided and bewildered, wondering what do they do now? I’ll be honest, there is no simple solution to stop the hurting, but there are ways to help you get through the recovery process.
Here are a few survival tools to get through this terrible time:
How to keep your Body Image from Hurting The Relationship
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Are you the type of person that stands in front of the mirror reviewing your body? Do you scrutinize every little detail that you hate on your body, such as your “hello kitty” arms, or your “used-to-be-so-flat-mommy-belly?” Do you find that know matter how many times you hear from your partner that he loves your body, or comments from others that you are tiny, it just doesn’t seem to be enough? Are you destroying your relationship because you are facing a struggle with your body? This body image can get in the way of dating and maintaining relationships.
Relationships tend to suffer severely when you become engulfed in your self image. The endless hours of exercise and self absorption can prevent you from connecting to your loved one. Read More→
Get your New Year’s Resolution to Stick!
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Creating a New Year’s Resolutions is to help people improve life; such as losing weight, decreasing spending, improving health, creating stronger business, etc. A frequent problem is that people start off strong; working diligently day in and day out, and have it as an extreme focus. It lasts for a good few days or months, but quickly dwindles down to nothing. This is the “Yo-Yo Resolution;” starting from one extreme (all-in) to the other extreme (all-out). Read More→
Best 50 Relationship Tips of the Year
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I started this year out using my social networking as a place to share free relationship tips to others. For some people, twitter is a huge community and support network. For other people, it isn’t their cup of tea. As a business owner (and a therapist), I decided to create a place for support, providing relationship tips and tools on social networking sites. I thought it would be great to highlight some of my favorite quick tips.
Here are my BEST 50 posts of year 2010 I posted on Twitter.
- Don’t hibernate alone when feeling sad, bring a buddy into your cave to cuddle up with and stay warm.
- Your partner should be your “prince” or “princess”…nothing less. Treat them that way and find out how it helps the relationship!
- Trauma (loss, miscarriages, cancer, etc) can bring back old relationship pains and magnify the problems. Take action to heal the pains & bond.
- Any sentence with the word “BUT” attached will delete the first part of the sentence. “I like you, but…..” Just don’t use the word… Read More→
Relationship Advice: What is an Emotional Affair?
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It all started with an innocent friendship, a simple flirty comment and WHAMO! Chemistry takes over and your internal world ignites on fire, you get excited, and your mind races a thousand miles a minute. Emotional affairs don’t include physical intimacy….it is basically all emotion.
Here are a few items that constitute an emotional affair: Read More→
conflicting couples, affairs, communication struggles, etc.
