Jan
20
Relationship Advice: Money’s Tight? Quick tips to keep your relationship strong
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Relationships are facing more and more stress with the recession; foreclosures, loss of jobs, worry about money, arguing about money, decreased income, loss of stocks, etc. Many relationships are drastically hurting because their finances are declining. While in a hard time, relationships are supposed to be the comfort zone, the place to decompress and get soothed….especially in such an economic crisis. But that isn’t the case in some relationships.
Don’t be one those couples suffering simply because the bank account has dropped. Here are a few tips on keeping your connection strong while handling economic stress:
- Focus on the NOW: Many people have the worry thoughts of the future: “What will happen if…” or “What will we do when…” or “How will we handle…” Basically future thoughts only hurt and damage our mood. Don’t get caught on that trap. Keep your mind on what you have now and what you are doing now.
- $20 Date Nights: Many couples forget to nurture the relationship and don’t work on growing the relationship. Make the relationship a priority and schedule date nights. Be creative in finding ways to connect with one another while spending only $20. Take the challenge and see what you two come up with!
- Create a Game Plan Together: Game plans create a sense of direction and decrease the anxiety. Sit down with your partner and create a game plan as a team. The stronger of a joint game plan, the better you two will make it out as together.
- External impacts Internal: External environments can impact your internal mood. For example: when the house is messy, the more stressed you might feel. Carve out a few hours in the week to organize and clean your house and office. Notice how it impacts your mood and how you communicate with your partner.
- Look at what you DO have: When the stress is heightened on bill payments and work stress, people often hyper-focus on what they “don’t have” versus what we “do have.” Shift your focus and keep looking at what you do have, such as appreciating your family and friends.
- Think Positive: Worry can take away the optimistic thoughts and bring you down. The more negative thoughts, the less energy we have for the relationship. Think positively and avoid the emotional beat-up game. Encourage yourself and tell yourself that you will make it work and find a way.
- Hold Each Other: When the tough gets going… hold on tight and comfort one another. It is okay to be fearful or upset…so hold one another and tell your partner that you two will face the struggles together. Getting confirmation that you aren’t alone can ease the stress and make the obstacles more manageable.
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Good points. Many couples get depressed due to the financial crisis. They should care about each other and make wise decisions to overcome the problems.