If you find yourself in a pattern of unsuccessful relationships, then you may have a familiar relationship dynamic pattern that is not working. Sometimes this is “unconscious” and causes us to act out behavior that we are not aware of. Below are tips on how to make a positive, lasting impression on new people in the dating world:
1. Often the pattern can be so ingrained that it may need to be addressed with a professional: attempt to break your patterns through counseling. Relationship choices are based on patterns that were created in our childhood and then were reinforced during our growing up. We often have patterns that cause heartache and frustration instead of patterns that lead to successful, happy relationships. Begin to understand where your relationship pattern comes from, what your pattern looks like, and then choose to do something different.
2. Look at how the vibes you send out are being received by other people. Sometimes if you feel inadequate, unattractive, have low self-esteem; other people will pick up on how you feel and possibly cause them to lose interest in you. Boost your confidence by exercising, decreasing stress, counseling, maintaining a healthy diet, getting a haircut, buying new clothes, etc. Stand tall and think positively.
3. Stop comparing yourself to others. Doing so sets your up for constant failure in that no two people are alike: everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. You are a unique individual with desirable traits to compatible people.
4. Laugh and smile more often. In addition to being attractive and magnetic, laughter and smiling elevates your mood and keeps your body healthy.
5. Put yourself out there by experiencing new things. Take on new hobbies or travel to new environments such as church, dating sites, groups, etc. to meet new and interesting people.
6. Don’t spend your entire holiday season with married or coupled families and friends. Find other singles and singles’ groups/activities where you won’t feel as uncomfortable or lonely.
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1 Ruth // Aug 7, 2008 at 6:30 pm
I really like tip #4. It always amazes me how few people actually smile these days. Another helpful thing I’ve found is to find a group of like-minded people online you can share with.
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