Relationships in the Raw: Tips to build healthy communication

Couples frequently come for psychotherapy saying that they want “healthier communication.” But what does that really mean? All of these high functioning, business oriented, goal driven couples communicate to one another; they talk, express how they feel, and continue to discuss ongoing issues. They tend to regurgitate the problem over and over, they reshape the way they say things, they shift their perspective, and they constantly try various ways to explain their side. Communication is exactly what they do, but the bigger question is what do they accomplish? Learning how to communicate is too broad of an issue….healthy communication is about narrowing in, taking a deeper look at the interactions within each partner, and understand how the couple interact together. From a therapeutic stance, it is about eliciting the underlying issues and emotions, gaining insight and awareness of the patterns, and changing the dynamic of the relationship. It has nothing to do with the English language, and has everything to do with the relationship patterns.

Healthy relationship patterns + expressing emotions = Healthy Communication

Do you want to have healthy communication in your relationship, visit my San Diego Therapy Website to schedule an appointment.