Breakups: Is Social Media Making it Hard to Move On?

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You're not alone, at least according to one study.

When you're happy in your relationship, posting about it on social media seems only natural. Uploading pictures, adding your anniversary to your profile, and tagging each other on a regular basis is very common. One professor at UCSC calls these things "digital possessions." So what do you do with your virtual scrapbook when the relationship ends? Social media and break ups aren't a great combination. Looking at old social media posts and content can make it very hard to move forward in your new life. Here are some tips for how to begin to get over a break up even if you have social media connections.

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A Story about Toilet Paper to Inspire Positive Change…Really

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How to make sure you don't adapt to unhealthy relationships

When I left America to live in Spain for a year, I couldn't always find toilet paper in the bathrooms. Something that most people in the US simply expect to be there could not be relied on, so I adapted. Everywhere I went, I kept tissue in my purse, and eventually it just became normal that I sometimes had to dip into my personal tissue stash. I learned to adjust to the situation. When I moved back to the United States, I had a reverse culture shock -- every bathroom had toilet paper and many also have paper towels. Something that I had thought of as "normal" and an expected convenience before I left for Spain suddenly took me off guard. I had a bit of "reverse culture shock" to something I knew was supposed to be there, but I learned to live without it.

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Storming Out of Fights: Here’s Why You Need to Stop

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How a Quick Exit Might Be Hurting Your Relationship

Sometimes an argument with your partner can get heated, or maybe you feel like you're having the same fight for the 5th time this week. It can be tempting to storm out of the room and slam the door behind you because you just don't want to deal with it. Sometimes cooling off can be helpful, but exiting a fight as a statement is not a good way to do it. When you suddenly leave, you are sending all sorts of messages to your partner that you may not even realize, and that are pretty hurtful. Here is why you might be damaging your relationship if you're someone who storms out when the going gets tough.

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Help! My Friend is Marrying a Loser!

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Steps to share your concerns about her choice

When you watch you friend in a relationship that is less than healthy, it can feel pretty helpless. If she actually declares that they're going to tie the knot, you will feel even worse. It's like standing on the curb together and watching as she starts to step into the street.

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How to Waste Your Money on Couples Counseling

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Why coming to counseling with one of the 3 A's will sabotage your effort

Yes, couples counseling can be a real life line for your marriage. But only if you are willing to do the work and come to counseling ready to be emotional, honest, and take real action. If have any of the three A's: abuse, addition, or an affair -- your results won't be the best they could be. In fact, you might make very little progress at all. When you go to couples counseling with one or more of the three A's, you are wasting your money and time. Here's how to waste your money on couples counseling.

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How to Identify an Emotional Affair

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A quite innocent friendship of sharing and opening up to one another quickly grew stronger than you have ever imagined. It can start with a friendly text message, a flirty comment, and WHAMO! The chemistry simply takes over and emotions began to grow. Emotional affairs aren't intentional. They often happen when the "love tank" has been depleted and the reserve tank is empty as well. Once chemistry hits with a new person, our body releases Dopamine and Epinephrin (a natural chemical high).

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Creating a Healthy Vacation: How to Stay Well While You’re Away

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Going away on vacation is an essential part of a stress-free life style. Sometimes we all need a break from the daily grind to get back into a physically and emotionally healthy state. Whether it’s an expensive trip abroad, or just a “staycation” where you rent a hotel room for a few nights in your own city, getting into holiday mode lets you relax, leave your worries behind, and reconnect as a couple. If you want to feel your best, don’t let yourself indulge too much on your vacation. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with ordering that piece of cheesecake for dessert, but think about how you can keep well overall on your trip to avoid guilt when you get back home.

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Breaking Up is Hard to Do — With Friends, Too.

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Why a friendship break up can be hard and how to move on

When you enter into romantic relationships, on some level you know that it may work out -- or it may not. This person could be with you for the long haul, or perhaps you'll grow apart and figure out he's not "the one." We don't place the same expectation with platonic girlfriends, however. If you have a BFF, you think that she'll be with you through it all -- failed romances, lost jobs, and even across geographical distances. You don't think to ask "will long distance work?" like you do with a boyfriend. So, when a friendship break up happens, it can be devastating.

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