How to Resolve Relationship Fights

Resolving Relationship Fights

Conversations about conflict may be hard, but they aren't impossible.

You may have heard the statistic that only 7% of what you communicate is in your words. The rest is made up of body language and tone of voice. In order to be heard and understood in relationship fights, we need to keep calm, actively listen, and respond mindfully rather than just reacting.

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Get to Sleep with Six Simple Habits

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It's time to beat insomnia for good!

Sometimes anxiety keeps us awake. It may be worries about our present day or tomorrow or a general sense of unease. Maybe the energy in our body is ramped up even though it is time to wind down. Whether it is a substance consumed, a misaligned circadian rhythm, or simply an overactive brain, there are practical ways to reset your body clock. Here is how to get to sleep in a few steps:

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Free Dates in San Diego (and elsewhere!)

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Most of us in relationships know that dedicated date nights are a good idea, especially once the relationship becomes committed and settles a bit. But a nice dinner and a show can get a little pricey. Fortunately for you and your bank account, expense ≠ romance. A little creativity and planning can make all the difference and that thoughtfulness is what really translates to your partner. Without further ado, here are some ideas for free dates in San Diego. If you're not in our lovely city, no worries! Try looking for an equivalent locale for your area.

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What is Helicopter Parenting?

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In parenting and professional circles, the phrase “helicopter parenting” has become a bit of a buzzword in recent decades. It refers to a parenting style with a mindset of prevention and rescue. This kind of parenting is most common with mothers but fathers, too, may have a compulsive need to help their child out of tough situations. So are you a helicopter parent?

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Are you Addicted To the Internet?

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The internet is a great tool for accessing information, keeping in touch with friends and family, and even making new friends. When I see clients who are lacking a support network, sometimes they feel much better after attending a MeetUp group they found on the internet or making new connections online. However, sometimes being online can go too far. Internet addictions interrupt daily life and can hinder important relationships – even your marriage.

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Talk About Sex During Sex

How to Talk About Sex During Sex

How to Say "Eh" Without Killing the Mood

Usually the most productive conversations about what goes on in the bedroom happen outside of the bedroom, but sometimes in the moment you need to get your partner on the same page. A lot of times we hesitate to talk about sex during sex for fear of hurting our partner’s feelings or to avoid “killing the mood” but the truth is that when you are not fully present, the sexual experience is just not what it should be.

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How to Communicate Hurt to Your Partner

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Every relationship could happily do without dramatic confrontations and the mess that ensues. So how do you have the tough conversation without the theatrics or name calling? Overcoming hurt is not a simple thing. Each of you have an array of feelings and it is important for both of you to share what you need.

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How to Create a Safety Plan and Escape an Abusive Situation

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If your relationship is unstable and unsafe, it is important to have a way to protect yourself. If you have children, you are responsible for their well-being also. Having a safety plan can help you process your emotional state and regain a sense of power in a seemingly helpless situation. When you have clarity on how to feel safe, the “when” of it becomes more attainable: soon or now.

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What to do When Your Spouse Won’t Talk to You

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This may sound familiar: you and your partner are sitting in the car, a mere two feet from one another, yet nobody is speaking.  You try to start a conversation, but getting your partner to say more than a few words feels like pulling teeth from the mouth of an angry crocodile.  You realize that you may have done something wrong, but your partner won’t tell you what it was.  

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