Are you Addicted To the Internet?

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The internet is a great tool for accessing information, keeping in touch with friends and family, and even making new friends. When I see clients who are lacking a support network, sometimes they feel much better after attending a MeetUp group they found on the internet or making new connections online. However, sometimes being online can go too far. Internet addictions interrupt daily life and can hinder important relationships – even your marriage.

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Talk About Sex During Sex

How to Talk About Sex During Sex

How to Say "Eh" Without Killing the Mood

Usually the most productive conversations about what goes on in the bedroom happen outside of the bedroom, but sometimes in the moment you need to get your partner on the same page. A lot of times we hesitate to talk about sex during sex for fear of hurting our partner’s feelings or to avoid “killing the mood” but the truth is that when you are not fully present, the sexual experience is just not what it should be.

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How to Communicate Hurt to Your Partner

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Every relationship could happily do without dramatic confrontations and the mess that ensues. So how do you have the tough conversation without the theatrics or name calling? Overcoming hurt is not a simple thing. Each of you have an array of feelings and it is important for both of you to share what you need.

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How to Create a Safety Plan and Escape an Abusive Situation

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If your relationship is unstable and unsafe, it is important to have a way to protect yourself. If you have children, you are responsible for their well-being also. Having a safety plan can help you process your emotional state and regain a sense of power in a seemingly helpless situation. When you have clarity on how to feel safe, the “when” of it becomes more attainable: soon or now.

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What to do When Your Spouse Won’t Talk to You

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This may sound familiar: you and your partner are sitting in the car, a mere two feet from one another, yet nobody is speaking.  You try to start a conversation, but getting your partner to say more than a few words feels like pulling teeth from the mouth of an angry crocodile.  You realize that you may have done something wrong, but your partner won’t tell you what it was.  

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How Couples Counseling Can Help

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5 Ways Counseling Helps Your Relationship

I always say that if one partner suggests marriage counseling… the relationship needs counseling. When a marriage is fulfilling for both partners, one of them will not suggest seeking outside help. Did your spouse recently suggest going to counseling, but you’re not so sure?

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Dating Advice: How to Be a Charming Date

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Dating Advice by Jen Zajac, IMF

So you have a date -- regardless of your gender, and if you were asked or did the asking, it’s likely you have some pre-date butterflies. We all have a desire to be perceived in our best light ("charming", if you will), and the pressure of ‘getting everything right’ on our first impression (or first few impressions) can be stressful. It’s human to want to be liked, and many often fret about saying the wrong thing or coming across the wrong way (especially if we have already established that we do indeed have an interest in the other party).

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