Estes Therapy Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #47653

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

Tuesday, 08 February 2011 16:40
EFT Hold Me Tight

What is EFT? And how it improves relationships.

"To change the dance, both people have to change their steps." – Susan Johnson

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a short-term strategic therapy approach working with couples. It is a researched bases showing long term change in working with couples. The therapy approach focuses on creating a secure relationship by helping couples learn how to stop old communication patterns, decreasing their reactivity (either quickly snapping or shutting down), and creating an emotionally safe relationship.

EFT helps couples to be more emotionally responsive, available, and accessible to one another through communicating and less reactivity. It also focuses on repairing the relationship and healing old wounds.

As a therapist, I help my couples become the expert in their relationship....but in a new way. The old communication patterns can get couples stuck...and often doesn't work as effectively. In EFT, the couple will learn how to identify and recognize the old patterns, stop the cycle, and jump into the new communication styles. I help them find new ways to express how they feel and learn how to comfort one another when facing a difficult issue.

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My Trainings in Emotionally Focused Therapy:

  • EFT Externship
  • Core Skills Training
  • Weekly supervision during my licensing and post licensing
  • Bi-monthly meetings and ongoing trainings to continue growth in EFT
  • Love, Sex, and Chocolate: EFT Clinical Case Consultations 
  • Broken Bonds: Healing Attachment Injuries with EFT 


I am currently working towards becoming certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy. I continue to work at improving my therapy skills by continuing my education. I meet with a few colleagues and discuss techniques, how to hone in on my skills, and how to provide the best service for my clients. As a Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT), it is my goal to provide the best support to my  San Diego clients.