Get To Know Carly Goldstein

Carly Goldstein San DiegoWhen did you decide to go into Marriage and Family Therapy?

Through my education, my professional life, and my personal experiences, I have learned time after time that relationships are powerful; They have the power to hurt and the power to heal. That is why I was drawn to the field of Marriage and Family Therapy, where the focus is on relationships and their importance. Our lives are made up of relationships – to ourselves, our families of origin, our partners, our friends, our children, and even to our cultures – and I feel fortunate to work in a field that acknowledges the importance of these relationships.

Do you have advice for someone who is considering becoming an MFT?

Stay connected – Find a community of other clinicians and be intentional about taking time to connect with them. This field can be isolating and it is important to feel like you have support.

Stay curious – Always remain curious about your clients’ experiences and the field in general. There is always so much to learn!

Stay humble – We are so privileged to do the work we do. It is a huge honor and responsibility to be a witness to clients’ stories of strength and resiliency.

What would you say to someone who is nervous about setting up their first counseling session with you?

That’s normal! I completely understand how nerve-wracking it can be to come into an initial counseling session. In fact, many clients feel that way before coming in! With that said, it is my goal and job to make sure you leave your first session feeling comfortable, hopeful, and at-ease. In your first session, you will come into our office, help yourself to some coffee or tea in the waiting room, and we will spend some time going over the counseling process and getting to know each other. At the end of the session, I will map out our plan for our future sessions so you have a clear idea where we’re going. It takes courage to come into therapy and invest in yourself and your relationship in this way and I will be there with you every step of the way.

Do you have a special area you focus on within the therapy field?

Due to my work at a high-risk crisis hotline, I am especially experienced working with clients dealing with any kind of crisis in life; I can be a calm, comforting, and non-judgmental third party away from the chaos of everyday life. With that said, I have also seen the way therapy can benefit those who are not in crisis and simply wanting to improve their relationships or learn new skills. Overall, I am most passionate about working with my clients’ relationships because as the saying goes, no person is an island.

How do you pass your time when you are not working with clients?

When I am not working with clients, you can probably find me testing out a new recipe, exploring the beautiful hikes in San Diego, reading on the couch, and spending time with my awesome community of friends and family.

If you were not a therapist, what would you be doing?

I wouldn’t trade my job as a therapist for anything! If I had to choose something else though, I would love to write cookbooks. That would combine my passions for cooking, writing, and photography.