A MUST watch video about the Exposure to Violence and a Child's Developing Brain
Violence doesn't just hurt a relationship, it also hurts your children. This video below shares how children exposed to violence impacts their brain, how they respond, and long term effects. Most couples think that their babies won't remember, but the fact is it significantly impacts children and how they react from day to day responses. As described in the video, the brain is like a sponge. When children are growing and learning, their brain is impacted by the environment. The more violence the child sees, the more the brain gets trained to "survive" by numbing out, acting out, detaching, or blaming themselves. This response can follow them growing up and impact relationships as adults.
This is a great video for my clients to watch and understand how their childhood exposure to violence impacts how they handle their relationship now. Better yet, it is also very important to help my clients who struggle with handling anger, rage, and frustration. Our counseling sessions focus on rewiring the brain and creating a corrective/healing experience for both them and their families.
Here is the video “Exposure to violence and a child’s developing brain,” by the Office of the Attorney General.
If you are in a relationship that has domestic violence, it is time to seek help. Don’t just get help for the kids, but help you and your relationship as well. The brain can get rewired even in adults, and learning new and healthy communication styles will keep every one safe and can boost mental and physical health.
Tips for the kids:
- Talk about their feelings. Help them understand that the violence occurring in the home is not their fault.
- Get professional help from a therapist.
- Remember, we have the ability to heal and get better.
- Expose your children to healthy relationships.
- Be kind to your kids to help them be kind to others. Kids learn so much by what we model for them in our own homes.
- Help the children learn to how to handle stress by managing your own stress.
If this article and video “Exposure to Violence and a Child’s Developing Brain” was helpful, share a comment below. Better yet, schedule your counseling session to heal your brain and your child’s brain.
About Jennine Estes, MFT
Think of me as your relationship consultant, I'm your neutral third party that can help you untangle the emotions and help you figure out what's really going on. I am a Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA. Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples. Supervisor. I write relationship and self growth advice for my column Relationships in the Raw. Creator of #BeingLOVEDIs campaign. MFC#47653