Posts Categorized: Dating

Relationship Advice: How to Stop Snooping

Relationship Advice: How to Stop Snooping

Don't create more distrust in your relationship

The moment you have a suspicion that your spouse is cheating or something just “isn’t right,” you might be tempted to start going through his things. Maybe you scroll through his text messages, or hack into his email. These invasions of privacy, often called “snooping” or “creeping” will probably come back to haunt you. If your partner finds out that you snooped through his stuff, it can just create a bigger issue than you already have. When you lack trust in the relationship, here are some things you can do instead of snooping.

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Newlyweds: The First Year

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Issues to Consider

A lot of shows on the Bravo network only provide a guilty pleasure, but a new show caught my eye because it deals with the first year of marriage, which can be a challenging time for any couple. The series follows four couples for a year, all of whom are in very different situations. They deal with issues like money, sex, a short courtship, familial approval of the relationship, and control. I will be writing up a blog each week as the episodes unfold, and talking about the issues that come up.

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Creating a Healthy Vacation as a Couple

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Going away on vacation is an essential part of a stress-free life style. Sometimes we all need a break from the daily grind to get back into a physically and emotionally healthy state. Whether it’s an expensive trip abroad, or just a “staycation” where you rent a hotel room for a few nights in your own city, getting into holiday mode lets you relax, leave your worries behind, and reconnect as a couple.

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Online Dating Advice: How to bounce back quickly when things went wrong

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How to recover from an Internet relationship gone wrong

If you haven't seen the documentary or television show called "Catfish," it's a good tool for learning how to protect yourself when in an online relationship. The term
"catfish" in relation to online dating stems from the way real catfish behave when they're in a container with another fish. The catfish will nip at the other fish's fins constantly, keeping the other fish active and making life interesting. In the realm of Internet dating, a catfish is a person who keeps you on your toes in a similar way. They do this by refusing to meet in person, coming up with excuses to get out of Skype or phone chats, and often telling tall tales -- all of which means you're left guessing and feeling emotional highs and lows.

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Advice on How to Survive Valentine’s Day being Single

Advice on How to Survive Valentine’s Day being Single

Don't let this February day get you down

It's that time of year where San Diego stores are filled with red balloons, lover's hearts, and romantic items for the committed relationships.  For some people, this special February day can be exciting and romantic, and for others it can be torture. This time of year can hit deep and be another reminder of your relationship status....single. It doesn't have to be that way....you can survive Valentine's Day and avoid the pain.

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Single and Ready to Date? How to Get Ready for a Relationship

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Break the patterns that hold you back.

If you find yourself in a pattern of unsuccessful relationships, then you may have a relationship dynamic pattern that is familiar to you, but not working. Sometimes this is unconscious and causes us to act out with behavior of which we are unaware. In order to get ready for a relationship, you need to address any self-destructive habits that are holding you back.

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Healthy Communication: It’s Not What You Said But How You Said It

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Communication is absolutely essential

...yet it seems to be the most difficult part of relationships. Couples frequently come into my office saying they want “healthier communication.” But what does that really mean? All of these high-functioning, business-oriented, goal-driven couples communicate with one another by expressing how they feel and discussing ongoing issues. They regurgitate their problems over and over, reshape the way they say things, shift their perspective, and constantly try various ways to explain their side. So why isn't it working?

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