Posts Categorized: Communication

Want to Feel Lighter? Unpack Your Emotional Baggage

Emotional Baggage: Dealing with Trauma in Relationships

Getting your emotional baggage out in the open can support a healthy relationship in the long run.

We all have emotional baggage going into a relationship. After all, you haven’t been living in a bubble until you met your partner. Our emotional baggage can get heavy when we carry it alone, so it helps to share the load with a trusted partner. On the other hand, you don’t want to disclose your entire past to someone on the very first date. So when do you start to unpack your baggage in a relationship and how do you get help with this intense task?

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Holiday Advice: How to Handle a Scrooge

Holiday Advice: How to Handle a Scrooge

Don't let a Debbie Downer take away your holiday fun. You have the right to enjoy this season even if a Scrooge shows up!

The holidays are time for get-togethers, enjoying family and friends, laughing, and exchanging gifts. But some families aren't that lucky...and they get stuck with a Scrooge. It can be exhausting to be around pessimistic comments, hearing negative views of the holidays, or being told about what isn't just right. These ongoing negative comments can rub off and bring you down if you let them.

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3 Ways to Keep Social Media Posts from Causing a Break Up

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If you click Send too soon, you might end up causing drama. Here's how thinking before you post can save your relationship.

We all have the basic human need of community support. This used to mean just your neighborhood, school, and people you interact with in person. However, our society has evolved so that we develop new relationships online with just a few clicks of a button. We now have more people cheering us on, giving us positive comments, or promoting our ego online. But, online communication can also complicate your romantic relationships – how much is too much? It’s important to set boundaries and have a full understanding of how to protect your relationship while posting on the web. Social media and relationships can only go hand in hand if you communicate well.

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3 Reasons to Think Before You Text Angry

3 Reasons to Think Before You Text Angry

Communicating Effectively with Text

With the advent of text messaging, it’s easy to send a quick message to your significant other when you’re in a hurry. While texting is faster than an email, and usually more convenient since your phone is on you at all times, you should think twice before you send a message in anger. Sometimes texting can backfire – what you say may be taken the wrong way, or you might send something too quickly and then wish you hadn’t.

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Help! My Husband is Getting Deployed

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Can your love go the distance with the distance in miles between you? This is a question surprisingly many couples are faced with in today’s society. With thousands of men and women in the military on their scheduled deployments, and spouses seeking jobs outside their county due to market declines, this is much more common now than ever. So we ask our self….. Can we make it? How do we make it? And the ever infamous question of, “will he stay faithful?” These questions can and will taunt an individual all the days of their lives if they do not have a good solid foundation in their relationship.

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Ways to Damage Your Relationship or Marriage

Ways to Damage Your Relationship or Marriage

John Gottman, a marriage and parenting researcher, has written about behaviors that are damaging to relationships, along with seven principles needed to make marriage work. The following are some of the habits and behaviors that Gottoman has identified as being hurtful. When you read the list, focus on any behaviors that you do within your own relationship, and avoid searching for how your partner is within the relationship. The more you are aware of your own behaviors, the easier it will be to stop them.

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